Post # 1
I just got engaged a month ago, but I was wondering when exactly I should start planning the engagement party?
Googling has told me its roughly a year before the wedding, but that seems like a really long time between each event.
Then I thought that since I really want to get married in summer we could have it during the winter, but my sister worried that between planning the wedding and engagment it would be too much…and that makes sense.
My mom on the other hand, says that I need to set a date first before I even start to think about this…FI Mom agrees. FI just wondered aloud why you wouldn’t have a engagement party right after you get engaged…
A little help please 🙂
Post # 3
This probably isn’t much help, but my understanding is that YOU don’t throw the engagement party at all… someone else throws it for you… so THEY decide… And I think it depends on what makes sense to you guys as a couple and whoever is throwing it… from right after you get engaged to six months before the wedding seems like a good time frame to me.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House
My parents threw us an engagement party Thanksgiving weekend- we got engaged that August. We still had about 2 years until the wedding, and I hadn’t nailed down a date, but personally I like celebrating the engagement for what it is- you don’t need to wait to be within a specific time frame from the wedding when your engagement might be old news, ya know?
Post # 5
See now, I had a feeling it wouldn’t be on me and my guy to throw the engagement but convos between my mother and his parents have left that part out…hmm
Post # 6
i personally like the idea of having the engagement party very soon after the official engagement happens…it breaks up the events some, celebrates what you are actually supposed to be celebrating, and if people DO bring gifts (which isn’t expected), it breaks up the wedding celebrating period nicely so people don’t feel as though they are giving engagement, shower, and wedding gifts all at the same time.
Post # 7
Yeah – you and your FI definitely shouldn’t be planning your own engagement party. They aren’t a necessary thing so if someone plans one for you, great! If not, its not a big deal (kind of like showers, bachelorette parties, etc). So don’t worry about “when” to have it; if someone plans you one, the’ll figure out the timeing.
Post # 8
Per Peggy Post of the Emily Post Institute, it is perfectly fine for the couple to host their own engagement party. It’s not supposed to be a gift giving event.