When should you send out wedding invitations

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

This is what I read off theknot.com:

Traditionally, invitations go out six to eight weeks before the wedding — that gives guests plenty of time to clear their schedules and make travel arrangements if they don’t live in town. If it’s a destination wedding, give guests more time and send them out three months ahead of time. Most couples also send out save-the-date cards. They go out at six to eight months.

Read more: Top 10 Wedding Invitation Etiquette Q&As – Wedding Planning – Wedding Invitations + Stationery http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-invitations/articles/wedding-invitations-etiquette.aspx#ixzz2kjyLGO3l

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

95% of my guest list is traveling at least 2 hours. We’re sending them out in about a week for my Feb 15th wedding but we also don’t want ours getting too mixed up with Christmas cards. I would probably send them out mid April if I were you.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I sent mine at about 10 weeks, and my future grandma in law was so offended that she didn’t return her RSVP until it was 8 weeks because that’s when you’re “suppose” to send them.

 

That being said F-tradition. I think around 10-12 weeks is appropriate.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Our wedding is May 3, 2014.  We are having a sit down dinner with 3 selections, and those numbers need to be into our venue on or by April 15th.  So, I am sending our invites the first week of February with a RSVP date by April 4th to give us ample time to get together place cards, table arrangements and food selection.  That gives us a timeline of approximately 9 weeks. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@birdy88:  We will be sending our save the dates soon. 90% of my guest list are people travelling 8+ hours. The hotel is providing 45 day room block so sending invites July 1st, August 1st for RSVP. This is more time compared to a wedding where most people are local. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d say 3-4 months. Especially since you have quite a few traveling, and I don’t see the problem with knowing early. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our wedding is in October of 2014 and we are sending them out in April or may because we are not sending out STDs

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@birdy88:  There is not great advice on this thread. Do not send them out before 10 weeks. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@birdy88:  We have half of our guest list flying a long way to attend so we are doing three months out with a two month window to RSVP. Realistically as a guest even with STDs I would want 3 months if I was travelling a great distance so I knew the weekend schedule and had all of the information and knew I was FOR SURE invited so I would feel comfortable booking flights and hotel rooms. I think the 8 week rule was made in a time where people had all of their guests locally. My FI cousin is having a wedding where everyone but us has to drive 8 hours and sent hers out at the 6 week mark and the whole family was PISSED she didnt give them more time. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@birdy88:  It is considered bad etiquette to send out invitations too early. It comes of as presumptuous. If you send out STDs there is no reason to send out invites any early then 10 weeks. 

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