Post # 1
SO and I have wanted to move in together for a while, but we didn’t think we would be able to do it without a roommate. SO asked one of his friends if he would consider getting a place with us, and he said yes. We all moved in together in August 2013. His friend hasn’t been the greatest roommate (I won’t get into too many details), but he also hasn’t been the worst. That being said, SO and I have realized that we can easily afford our rent, and we would probably be better off living alone after our lease is up in August. I know this is still 6+ months away, but I don’t want to tell him a week before.
I think it would be much easier to say, “we’re moving into a different apartment.” We could move ourselves into an apartment in the same complex because there are always plenty available, but we have furnished basically the entire apartment. It would be a hassle even to just move down the street. Roommate literally only has what is in his bedroom. We don’t want to bring up the issues that we’ve had with him as a roommate because it’s not like they are TOO major, but we were thinking of going more with the “we’re getting married and will probably want to start a family soon.” kind of thing because it’s true.
How soon should we tell him we want him to move out in August?
Post # 3
@beetee123: Tell them a month before or after your last month has been paid for 🙂
If you want you can even give them two months notice and casually mention it when the date gets closer.
Post # 4
Personally, I would give as much notice as possible. They’ll respect you more for it AND then they have plently of time to get new furniture and find new roommates!
Post # 5
I agree the best thing would tell them as soon as possible.
Post # 6
I definitely want to give him notice ASAP, but I’m thinking six months may be a bit extreme. We don’t want to insult him by making him think that we’ve been thinking this practically since day one (which isn’t a lie).
Post # 7
maybe drop some hints but I would leave the sit down discussion to about 3 months prior…. no need to make things super awkward and uncomfortable.
I think your approach is a good one – the “it’s not you its me (us)” is a solid breakup plan!
Post # 8
Now. Finding a suitable person to live together is a big deal. Give as much notice as possible.
Post # 9
@beetee123: I’d let them know now. But spin it positively like ” we decided to move in together” and not “I’m moving out” lol
Post # 10
@beetee123: I would tell him about 3 months out. Gives plenty of time to find a place
Post # 11
@littlemisshostess: I think three months may be a good amount of time. I honestly doubt he will do any preparation for it no matter how long we give him. That’s just the type of guy he is.
@JerNCher: I live with SO and this roommate, so we can’t spin it that way! Sorry if my post was confusing!
Post # 12
@beetee123: I would give him the head’s up now. I think its completely reasonable for you to use the we are married/may start a family excuse. I can’t imagine having a roommate like with my FI and I.
As for the moving part, I would give him the option of finding a new roommate in the current place or finding a new apartment. I know how much moving SUCKS but it’s a fact of life. This summer I moved from one building to another in my complex. It was really annoying but it was do-able.
Post # 13
@weatherbug: I couldn’t stand the thought of it either, but we were convinced that it was the only way to go. I know it’s good to over budget for things, but apparently we WAY over budgeted for our living expenses!
It’s a good idea to give him the option of one or the other. Unless he finds a roommate I honestly can’t see him being able to afford this place on his own. It’ll be annoying if we have to move all of our stuff just so he can keep his bedroom LOL, but then again SO is already eyeing up one of the bigger units in our complex.
Post # 14
I would do 3 months. We’ve been in that situation. We were in shared accommodation, but the housemates gave us a month. It wasn’t enough time and we were pushing it. We found somewhere, and then were told we could have stayed for another two months >.< The new place, the guy gave us almost 8 weeks, which was more than enough time. 3 months to be safe, but reiterate every couple of weeks.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I think 3 months is fair.