Post # 1
Question to the ladies (and gentlemen) of the bee: after you sent out Save-The-Date Cards, but then had a guest do something worthy of ending the friendship, did you let that person know they won’t be receiving an invite? Or did you just not send the invitation?
I’m not looking for opinions on etiquette regarding inviting people who have received Save-The-Date Cards… this person decided to permanently end their friendship with Fiance and I for personal gain, and will get their due karma. Sending them an invitation is not an option. I just want to know how others have handled this.
Post # 3
I don’t think you need to tell them you’re not sending one. If the fallout is really that bad, I doubt they’re still expecting. Just don’t send an invite
Post # 5
I’d just not send an invite, reaching out to them just invites more drama.
Post # 6
@LGenz: Good point! Thanks for the replies, ladies.
Post # 7
We were In the same boat with a couple that we had become friends with a year prior but about a month before we sent oit invites they turned crazy. They turned against Fiance and his whole family. We just didn’t send them an invite and they have not asked aboutreceiving one. I believe that if you do not send them one, they will get the message.
Post # 8
@chelles07: Ah, you totally get it. Thanks for sharing your experience! I’m sorry you had to deal with that, though. Sucks when you learn people’s true colors.
Post # 9
If whatever they did was so greivous that it would end a friendship, I can’t imagine them expecting an invitation. I just wouldn’t send it at this point.
Post # 10
We “broke up” with a friend in the middle of our engagement, but to be the bigger people, we still sent him an invite. If he RSVP’d to come, we knew he wanted to eventually try and mend things, seeing how this is the most important day in our lives thus far.
He RSVP’d that he couldn’t make it. That to us said that he had no intention of rekindling our friendship, but we can at least lay our heads down at night knowing we made the final effort.
Post # 11
I agree with PPs. This person can’t expect an invite, so just don’t send one. Telling the person in advance that the invitation isn’t coming will just create an opening for more drama.