(Closed) When someone deserves to be scratched off the invite list:

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think you need to tell them you’re not sending one. If the fallout is really that bad, I doubt they’re still expecting. Just don’t send an invite

Post # 4
41 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

Agree with msfahrenheit

Post # 5
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d just not send an invite, reaching out to them just invites more drama.

Post # 7
1099 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We were In the same boat with a couple that we had become friends with a year prior but about a month before we sent oit invites they turned crazy. They turned against Fiance and his whole family. We just didn’t send them an invite and they have not asked aboutreceiving one. I believe that if you do not send them one, they will get the message. 

Post # 9
12877 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If whatever they did was so greivous that it would end a friendship, I can’t imagine them expecting an invitation.  I just wouldn’t send it at this point.

Post # 10
802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We “broke up” with a friend in the middle of our engagement, but to be the bigger people, we still sent him an invite. If he RSVP’d to come, we knew he wanted to eventually try and mend things, seeing how this is the most important day in our lives thus far.

He RSVP’d that he couldn’t make it. That to us said that he had no intention of rekindling our friendship, but we can at least lay our heads down at night knowing we made the final effort. 

Post # 11
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with PPs. This person can’t expect an invite, so just don’t send one. Telling the person in advance that the invitation isn’t coming will just create an opening for more drama.

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