- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I simply look at my shiny engagement ring and then I don’t feel, so bad.
Seriously though, I have realized how often in the weeks since I got my ring I have been in a really bad spot for work or planning reasons and I stop, take a moment, look down at the shiny thing on my finger and I feel connected to my Fiance and our love. It doesn’t take the sting out of everything, but it certainly has helped keep my mood up.
And then I start to feel guilty because, my Fiance doesn’t get to have this. All he gets is me coming home and asking him either (1) for yet another opinion about a wedding related decision or (2) if he got that last save the date address yet. I’m worried that, similar to the horror he went through to buy the engagement ring in the first place, the more this process becomes a pure “nag and respond” event, the more disconnected he will feel from the real point of the whole thing and the more he will just want to get it over with (or suggest eloping). See, when I get overwhelmed, I have a tangible, talisman-like, object to look down on. Plus it’s shiny. And shiny is fun.
So, this is the part where I ask you Bees out there, what (if anything) have you been doing for your Fiance to make sure that when the planning process gets overwhelming that he still gets to feel the happiness and excitement part? Did you get him something tangible too? (i.e. the engagement watch) Is there some way to “talk wedding” without it turning into a chore?
We are still in early days – 7 months to go – and I would really love any advice anybody has to keep my groom a happy groom (but not go crazy myself by taking all the planning on alone).