When the in-laws invite themselves over for a few days

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I would honestly talk to her and say that a couple days sure but you can’t just clear out a whole week for her.  You two have already made plans and she should respect that.

Post # 4
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

“sorry, but we’ve already made holiday travel plans and won’t be around for that week. can’t wait see you at thanksgiving, though!”

Post # 7
2279 posts
Buzzing bee

Agree with the PP, say you have a vacation planned and cannot cancel. 

Post # 10
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@tmsing:  if she gives you crap, then just say “i’m sorry, but we’ve already made plans. they can’t be changed.”

she will keep pushing, and she will keep bugging you. do not back down.

Post # 12
4812 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Your husband shouldn’t have told her she could stay when you didn’t want her to.  She should ask you what your plans are before inviting herself over.  That sucks!

Post # 13
7273 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@tmsing:  “Should I be blunt with her next time this comes up?”

No – your husband needs to grow a pair, stand up to his mommy, and tell her himself.

Your extra information – that  BIL has physically assaulted your husband – to me means that BIL can never stay the night in your house. Your husband MUST say that himself. But if he’s too spineless to, then either you tell her, or you go stay with someone else. No way would I sleep in the same house as BIL. Never ever. No exceptions.

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