- 3 years ago
Hi waiting bees,
I just wanted to send out support and encouragement for all the bees waiting on their SO to propose, and give a glimpse of what the other side is like. I don’t know what waiting for a proposal is like, but being on the other side *wanting* to propose and not being able to is maddening! I fantasize all the time about what it will be like to finally ask the question, planning and changing my mind over and over on how to do it. I knew I wanted to marry this person almost five years ago (I remember the exact moment and day that it hit me) and I’ve had a ring for two years! I’ve got one final adjustment to make to the ring before it’s perfect, and then waiting will be even more intolerable!
Why would a proposer wait so long? For me, it’s financial and personal reasons. I always thought I’d propose once I had a steady job and a secure future lined up. The only caveat my SO has given me about life is that since she doesn’t make enough to support two people, I need to be financially secure – a reasonable request. So I decided that when I was employed full-time, I would propose. However, after graduating, I found my field overcrowded with few entry-level jobs, and had to take completely unrelated part-time work. Now that I’ve switched careers to stay in this new field, I’m just waiting on the word that I’ll be sent to training and take my place as a full-time employee! I have an interview next week and once I know for sure when I’m going, which could be as little as in a month or two, then I can finally, finally make it official and propose!
I can’t share this with my SO, because she has absolutely no idea of the timeline I’d made in my head. We’ve talked about marriage for a long time, and she’s been patiently waiting with the assurance that someday when we’re able we’ll take that next step. I’ve already asked for her parents’ blessing (as per her and their wishes) and her father has already asked why we haven’t gotten engaged yet. So the waiting game is killing me too, just in reverse!