(Closed) When they liked you at first…but don't now (In-laws)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh my word, your FBIL and FSIL sound like a treat. I must confess, I’m laughing at the “garlic salt is high in sodium” thing. Part of me has to love people like that, who just blithely wander around knowing they are right in everything they do. Even if it’s cheating on their spouse and getting mad at people for saying that’s bad. Good grief.

I think your only recourse is to do what you’ve done: withdraw as much as possible, because obviously the problem is personality, and that isn’t going to change. I would probably also start being a passive-aggressive asshole right back, but that’s just me. As my Grumpy Grandpa always used to say, stupid questions get stupid answers … so with the garlic salt thing, I’d probably deadpan “really? I mean I usually tried to limit my use of it but that’s more because I was worried about the fat content.” And then stare at her, blinking and waiting.

Either way, good luck!

Post # 6
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4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@DimeStoreDropout:  Oh god, how annoying. I know a guy like that who in real life is fine, but on facebook becomes an absolute pill. One time I posted some really sweet status about running past the airport, and he responded by CORRECTING ME ON THE NAME OF THE AIRPORT. Apparently there was some to-do years ago when DCA airport was named Reagan National, and he felt that this bit of trivia was infinitely more important than the actual content or spirit of my posting.

Deadpanning on facebook without sounding like a complete jerk is a skill. A useful one. Smile

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Ugh!  Sounds like you’ve got a long road ahead.  I have in-law issues too, so I know how bad it sucks.  My ILs are hoarders.  Not so bad that you can’t navigate the house, but bad enough to where I am constantly in tears (DH and I live with them right now).  There are a million other issues and I can’t wait to be able to distance myself. 

If I were you, I would not be going to stay at FSIL’s.  I would let FI go, but I wouldn’t go with him.  I can’t stand anything more than being somewhere and feeling unwelcomed.

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