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posted 2 years ago in Family
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    Krissy18       New York

    This might sound absolutely ridiculous (and please... talk me down if it is), but I am worried about when to announce my (upcoming) engagement to my family. SO told me a few weeks ago that he is planning on an April/May proposal (I am a total control freak, and this is the most info I can get out of him about this!!). He is a huge procrastinator so I would not be surprised if it came in late, late May. Here is what I'm worried about: My aunt, who is also one of my best friends, is getting married the first weekend in June... and I'm one of her BMs. We are all SO happy for her and I would not in any way want to steal her wedding thunder so to speak. I am almost tempted to ask my SO to wait until after her wedding to propose, or maybe we can just wait to announce it to my family until after my aunt's wedding craziness has died down (although it might be hard for me to contain myself!). I know some women tend to get a little weird about this, you know stealing their wedding thunder and all. I would feel awful if a week before my aunt's wedding I'm all "HEY EVERYONE I'M GETTING MARRIED TOO!" and then have all of our family members focused on that while we are trying to celebrate my aunt's wedding. Am I over reacting? I keep saying I should talk to her about it, but I've been too nervous to even bring it up to her! I should also add that my aunt and I are really the only girls left to be married in my immediate family (no other sisters or aunts or female cousins on either side) so it would figure that this is all happening at the same time!!! I know it's still months away, but I keep thinking about it... What do you think?

     
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    JustlikeHeaven    March 6, 2009  

    I think you should talk to her about it.. ask her how she would feel...

    OR just anounce it the day you get married to CLOSE relatives (parents) & wait till after her wedding to announce to the rest?!

     

     

     
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    Jacqi    February 28, 2009  

    i think you're over thinking it all. I'd just let it happen when it does. I got engaged and went to friends' weddings the following two weekends. I didn't steal anyone's thunder.

     
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    JustlikeHeaven    March 6, 2009  

    & btw congrats!

     

     

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i know my family would KILL me if i didn't tell them that i was engaged the second it happened. i'm sure your aunt would be happy for you!

     
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    Future_Le    July 22, 2011   Kingwood

    I would wait till after your aunts wedding.

     
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    Krissy18       New York

    @Jacqi .. I know I'm probly over thinking... but if it were a friend's weddings I honestly wouldn't care. I am worried because it is immediate family, so you know we're talking at least half her guest list that would know rather than just some mutual friends.

    @justlikeheaven .. I was also thinking of just telling Mom, Dad, my brother and my aunt, and then telling everyone else when my aunt is off on her honeymoon LOL

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I'd ask her how she felt about it.  Since you're close, hopefully she'll be honest about it.  Either way, I would probably allow him to propose when he's ready (you've been waiting all this time!) and announce it to the family after your aunts wedding.  Obviously you should tell your immediate family but make sure they can keep a secret too.  Oh, and I wouldn't even wear the ring to her wedding.

     

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