Post # 1
I think the title says it all…
SO and I are going on a trip to Greece and Turkey next week. I know he has the ring and he asked my parents for permission, so I am pretty sure he is going to propose in the next 2 weeks.
As much as I will want to call my family and send them pictures of the ring, should I wait until I come back to see their reactions and make it more special? I would much rather tell everyone myself than having the news spread while I am still half-way around the world.
I also don’t want my family to be mad at me for not telling them right way….
What do you bees think?
Post # 2
missnadia: I would wait to tell people to get their reactions in person! Thats what I did. It was really special to be able to tell people face to face.
Post # 3
missnadia: it depends on your family dynamics.
If it were me, I would call my parents and siblings a few hours it happens, but would not tell anyone else until I got back.
Post # 4
I know I spent a few hours with him alone and relished that moment. Then a few hours later, we called our parents and siblings to tell each before doing it publicly. Totally depends on your family dynamic, but if you know they would be hurt if others found out before them, tell them personally or at least by phone..not text or social media.
Post # 5
I’m in a similar position. I’m thinking I will tell my close family immediately (within the same day) via phone and an email for a photo, and will tell the rest of the world when I get back.
Post # 6
missnadia: I would tell just a couple of people while were were out of town and then, when we returned, tell the rest. That’s what I did and it worked out great. Otherwise, I would have had to postpone the wedding to pay for the data roaming charges.
Post # 7
whenever you and your FI want. There is no right or wrong time. Most people prefer to tell their immediate families first…
Post # 8
I would tell your family after it happens and then tell everyone else when you get back.
Post # 9
WAIT until you get back. Enjoy being newly-engaged with your FI without anyone else. When else will you get that opportunity? And then you can tell people and celebrate with them in person – way better than via social media or a phone.
Post # 10
missnadia: I voted for “as soon as it happens” but I think it more depends on what your family would think if you waited. I waited a few days, because it happened for me right before a weekend getaway/going to someone’s wedding, and I wanted to enjoy just being engaged and having a big fat secret for a few days. But my parents were super curious and would have liked to know right away, I think!
Post # 11
Thank you for all your helpful replies! I think I will do my best to wait, but maybe I will just be too excited when it happens!
Post # 12
missnadia: My DH proposed while we were on a weekend away, but we didn’t live in the same country as either of our families at the time. After he had done the deed and we had laughed, cried, talked for a few mins, he handed me his phone and told me to call my Mum. Like your SO he had asked permission from my parents and they were on tenterhooks waiting to hear! We then called his Mum straight after and posted on Facebook when we got back from our weekend. We couldn’t have told all our friends individually because of the distance.
Post # 13
missnadia: Well I’d first want to call family personally (don’t live in their state so I”d have to call). Then you can change your status on Facebook or whatever.
Kind along your question, but we got MARRIED while on vacation. It was a suprise to most except immediate family. I think we were at a location that had WIFI while on vacation and we did change our Facebook statuses to married which was actually 3 days after the wedding. That was it. Photos were not shared until weeks later when we had pro pics.
Post # 14
I announced the day I got home (which, incidentally was about 24 hours after we got engaged).
Post # 15
missnadia: I know for sure I’d be calling my parents and siblings ASAP. I’d be too excited to wait.