When to announce engagement? :)))

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would gve her the weekend, and then announce Monday. I don’t think more time than that is necessary.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I would give it at least two weeks, thats generous i think? CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!! 😀

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I agree with the PP – give them a week or two then announce.

Congratulations on your engagement!!!! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Amberrr:  you can announce it after their wedding weekend is over! it shouldn’t matter, right? (maybe it just wouldn’t matter to me lol…i tend to be way off the norm on this sort of thing!)

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Amberrr:  I would call her up and let her know and say I just want to give you the time you need for your wedding, I dont want to steal your thunder. Ask her when she will be ok with you anouncing it. My fiance proposed a week before my cousin’s wedding and he actually asked her a few months ahead if she was ok with that and us announcing our engagement the same week as her wedding. She was completely fine with it and totally excited and honored that he thought about her feelings. Your cousins will probably feel the same way.

In my opinion a week should be enough time.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

A week or two?!? …AFTER?!?

… I could see holding off a week or two before, but after? Seems to be a popular answer so I’ll accept I must be off, but I can’t figure out what thunder is left to steal after the wedding is over. That seems so silly to me. I just can’t picture any conversation going like this:

  • Bride: My aunt had the nerve to announce her engagment 3 days after my wedding!
  • Someone else: That bitch!
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I say, call her up first and tell her!  Then wait a few days after the wedding and announce it! Personally for me, I don’t care and I’ll be announcing it when it happens. (And wouldn’t care if someone announced before my wedding or after) 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

Is the on the list of people you want to tell personally? She might be leaving for a honeymoon right after the wedding. Unless you two are close, I don’t think you really have to wait. Your social circle is not identical to hers.

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