- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I’ve seen a lot of posts on when to chose BMs and all sorts of miscommunications/misunderstandings about what BMs’ responsibilities are, so here’s my idea: I’m going to decide at the “1 year mark” and I’m going to make them cute cards that ask them to be my BMs while also saying exactly what that means to me.
These are my ideas for what I’m going to ask them to do (I’m working on making them more funny):
– listen to me talk about seemingly boring things like types of paper for invitations and the difference between a chapel and a fingertip veil (although I promise that some conversations will be wedding-free 🙂
– help [MOH] plan a shower and a bachelorette party, which will include chipping in time and talent (like baking something to serve at the shower, or being the RSVP contact)
– come to a rehearsal the night before, followed by a dinner hosted by FH’s family. Help me with random things I can’t even think of now but may include helping me into my dress, finding me a snack so I don’t faint, or passing out programs when the GMs are late 😉
The nitty gritty:
– I’ll be asking you to wear an outfit the BMs and I agree on. I’d love to have everyone choose their own dress in various shades of a color, but this would require a lot of effort from you and the other BMs (finding dresses, swapping pictures, etc.)
- buy a dress of a certain color and style, cost not to exceed $150 [we talked about this in reference to other weddings, they’ve all mentioned $200, so think setting the bar lower is better]
- wear basic heels in black, navy, or brown (they don’t have to be new, but it’s been a while since we raided each other’s closets so you may need to trek to TJ Maxx)
– The ceremony and reception are in [town name], so you can plan to get a hotel room in the area or you could commute from your family’s house.
– Good news: I won’t make you get your nails, hair, or make up professionally done! Bad news: I won’t be paying for you to get your nails, hair, or make up professionally done.
– Good news: we aren’t dragging everyone to several locations for photos for hours on end! Bad news: we aren’t renting limos because the ceremony and reception are super close, and lots of people are driving.
Any thoughts on if this is too early/late or if this is a good idea? I think my friends are all sensible ladies, but weddings can bring out the best or the worst in people.