Post # 1
With almost 10 months until our wedding, I just realized that I need to figure out who my bridesmaids are going to be soon. At least I think I do. I’ve been putting this off since we got engaged because it’s gonna be a tough decision. Honestly, I didn’t think I would want bridesmaids, but Fiance wants a ton of groomsmen. Normally I wouldn’t care about uneven numbers in the bridal party but I think zero on my side versus 7 or 8 on his side would look a little weird.
Anyway, how soon into your engagement did you ask your friends/family to be bridesmaids?
Post # 3
I asked about a month into it.
Post # 4
I asked my sisters and sister in law right away as there was no question about it.
Post # 5
I got engaged in the begining of July and will be married in September 2011. We are having an engagement party on October 2 and will be asking my girls then.
Post # 6
I waited till I was sure. It ended up being about 9 months into our engagement and about 18 months from the wedding date. It’s really your own personal circumstances! 🙂
Post # 7
I asked my sister right away because she was a given. We waited a few months to ask FI’s sis because she was dealing with her own wedding stuff but she was a given too. After that we waited. And waited. And waited. And then waited some more. In fact, we waited until my mom was literally calling me every.single.day and asking if I had asked the girls yet because we needed to get the ball rolling with their dresses. I would recommend waiting until you are 100% positive of who you want. Your relationships with people will change over the course of even a couple of months. It’s also nice to see who is really helpful and supportive in the wedding planning process. My Future Sister-In-Law asked her girls immediately and she regretted it by the end because she ended up with a really big wedding party and a few that weren’t really into the wedding and were causing more difficulty than they were worth. We had a similar experience with our flower girls. We asked them right away and now I am regretting that decision. I know it will all work out fine and I will still be happy with our decision but I really think I would have gone a different route had I waited even a few more months.
Post # 8
Our engagement will be 22 months in total. I asked my sister and my Future Sister-In-Law right away because they were givens. I waited a few more months (4-5) to ask my best friend because we’re long distance and I wanted to see how that worked out 🙂
Post # 9
I was engaged in May and waited until August to ask my bridesmaids. I knew who I wanted, but I think in the excitement of getting engaged it’s easy to ask people you may regret. So I figured waiting a few months couldn’t hurt and I asked the same people I originally intended to ask.
Post # 10
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
My only advice is not to rush and make sure that you choose people you REALLY want and know will be there for you! We had a bad experience because of choosing the bridal party too early, and we really regret not waiting a little longer!
Post # 11
@cardigan: Ugh this happened to us also. Really, wait until your really sure before you ask so as to avoid any unwanted awkwardness.
Post # 12
Well, I’ve been engaged for longer than most (7 years) and am FINALLY planning the wedding for 2012, lol.
I’ve already asked two of the four of my girls (both have said yes and are rather excited about it, lol). Of course, these are two girls I can trust and depend on for help/suggestions and to be there for me. (One is out of state, the other is 3 hours away… and I hope to go shopping with her after the new year, too! AFTER all the holidays, of course, lol).
My Fiance already has his guys picked out and never thought twice about who he wanted.
I’d say it depends on how well you know your friends, how LONG you’ve known them, and the circumstances. The majority of my friends are guys, so picking girls I can depend on and know will be thrilled with dressing up in costumes isn’t easy, lol. I figure I’ve got some time to pick the other two.
If you’re certain you have friends who will be there through thick and thin, then great! Otherwise, take your time and pick who you know you can depend on to be there to help and support you. Or, in the very least, show up!!
Post # 13
We didn’t even think about planning right away. We even didn’t tell our families right away. So even after we did tell them, there was already too much on our plates, we didn’t really start planning til this summer, so that’s when I asked. I am also very shy and was shy to ask;)