When to ask for my parents' blessing???

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

My partner is officially asking dad tonight, he proposed without asking so I told him off. He for some reason thought you ask after. Silly boys

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@NYCkindaBee:  I would say any time after he has the ring.  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Technically asking for a blessing and asking for permission are different.  You can ask for a blessing after being engaged, but permission the asking needs to be done before the engagement happens. I’d suggest he asks reasonably close to when he wants to propose so that your parents are not left knowing why he is taking forever lol.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

DH asked the weekend before he proposed!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband didn’t ask for permission, but he asked for my dad’s blessing. He asked a few days before he proposed. But my parents both knew it was coming and weren’t surprised.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

FI asked about 2 weeks before he proposed. Some guys do it months or years before, there’s no real timeline. But I would say have the ring first.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

I’m not engaged yet, but my brother in law asked my dad like just a few days before, or maybe even just the day before. He didn’t want them to say congrats or something like that before he actually asked. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@NYCkindaBee:  I think you’re thinking too much about it lol. The reason why it’s done after he has the ring, is so he can show it to them and they can know he’s serious. When it happens weeks/months in advance, the anxiety and anticipation can ruin the fun. Don’t overthink it and enjoy 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

My husband and I have been together as a couple nearly 4 years, and he has never even met my father. (I don’t have my father in my life). I think it isn’t the norm anymore to ask, but more of a courtesy. So, consider it optional!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@NYCkindaBee:  My SO and I live together with our cat and dog in a city 6 hours from my parents. Although we don’t have any immediate plans to be engaged, he spoke to them when they came to visit this July. Basically said “you know I love your daughter, and over the past X years we have really become a family. I’d like to know if we both decide its what we want for the relationship, I’d like your permission to ask for her hand in marriage.” 

I don’t think there’s a special time frame to do it- it’s whatever feels right to you. I always thought my FH would ask once he had the ring and everything was set, but I love the way he did it and wouldn’t change a thing. 

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