Post # 1
Hey Bees! Well, now that I am a happily married woman, I have come to a bit of a crossroads. My Darling Husband thinks it is time to “move on” and that there is no need to keep revisiting a wedding site when…well there is no more wedding to plan! I know there are nesting, parenting, home and pet boards…but I feel a little in limbo. We are not TTC for at least 2-3 years, will not be house hunting for another year or so, and I just feel like there is not a current role to fill….anyone else been there? Darling Husband is certain that it is silly to spend time on wedding sites when we are married, even though I have explained to him the different components lol… thoughts? anyone else experienced this?
Post # 3
I vote for never leaving. Technically I have no right to be here either since we’re not wedding planning, family planning, etc, but I don’t see myself going anywhere anytime soon!
Post # 4
I don’t know, I think it’d be nice if you stuck around. I think it’s really helpful to have women who have already gone through the whole wedding thing be available to offer support and advice. How else are we supposed to learn?
Post # 5
Why does your husband have any say as to where you spend your internet time?
Post # 7
I can see where he’s coming from, but I would hang out until you feel ready to leave. I was on what to expect the whole time I was pregnant, and for roughly a year after. It got to where the women were total bitches, so I just stopped going- I didn’t need it anymore. Just stay until you’re comfortable with not being here. I’m sure everybody here is 100% fine with you hanging out as long as you like, but if you choose to leave, you can always pop back in once you “fit” into those other categories.
Post # 8
We’re almost a year past our wedding and nowhere close to TTC, but I still feel like I have a place here, chatting with other newlyweds and offering advice to brides-to-be. 🙂
Post # 9
Oh man, I have no plans to leave anytime soon. My Darling Husband totally makes fun of me now, though.
Post # 10
I’m engaged but not actively planning. So I guess by rites I shouldn’t be here either. I’m not going anywhere . Where elce can you find threads called ” I’m a porn producer” with out there being legit porn?!
Post # 11
@RunsWithBears: i agree! this site is especially helpful for me since i dont have another female to really turn to for this stuff – my mom passed away a few years ago, my grandma is lovely but he wedding was 50+ years ago so shes out of the loop, same with Future Mother-In-Law. having wedding veterans here is awesome.
@Mrs_Amanda: if you are feeling uncomfortable, you can always step back from the wedding specific stuff for a bit and hang in the lounge?
also i have been hearing rumblings of nesting boards that focus on people who are not currently TTC!
Post # 12
I think I’ve actually become more active on the site after my wedding than before! I don’t really see the need to reason your decision to your husband – mine teases me occasionally, but he doesn’t really care.
Post # 13
This is a lot more than just a wedding site. He must not see all the other forums.
Post # 14
I’m in the same position as @MissBoPeep, when I think about WB I don’t just think of weddings but of the amazing supportive community. There isn’t another forum like it! Even though I am a waiting bee it’s nice to be part of a community where (most of) its members are in relationships.
Don’t leave unless you really really want to. WB is part of my life now and I don’t know if I’ll ever leave (I guess we’ll see after the wedding) but there are so many Not Wedding Related boards. And sometimes it’s just a great place to lurk and vent.
Post # 15
I don’t think I’ll be leaving after we’re married. I’l be more active on the TTC boards probably after but I’m actually looking forward to being able to help brides to be. So my vote is DON’T LEAVE!! 🙂 I like having you around here 🙂
Post # 16
If you were paying a subscription fee, I would take some time off. But it’s a free website. The only thing being “wasted” is your time. So why does it matter if it’s TECHNICALLY a wedding community?