Post # 1
I told people to have RSVPs back by the 15th, which in hindsight was too late. But we’ve got about 30 people who haven’t responded. We don’t need to have the absolute FINAL head count until around the first of the month, but I want to know. When should we start bugging people who haven’t responded?
Post # 3
@katehh08: You shouldn’t be calling people until the RSVP by deadline passes by with no response. You gave people a time frame, and they are perfectly in their right to hold off until closer to the deadline to reply.
If you really gave a deadline that is well beyond your final count deadline, then I would start calling people a couple days before the final count needs to be in. Make sure you apologise to them about the error, as this is not their fault.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
When you say the 15th do you mean March 15th? I’d give it a couple days to let the mail travel in case they sent it ON the 15th, and then call them for a brief casual chat and make sure they received yourinvitation at all. I sent mine out last week and am just now learning that a couple people moved to new addresses since we sent STDs without me knowing.
Post # 5
Hmm we sent out a personalized email to everyone that didn’t RSVP about 5 days before the deadline. I set my RSVP deadline 2 months before I needed my final head count, and I sent my invites way early.
Post # 6
Our RSVPs were due back on March 6th, and by the deadline we hadn’t heard from at least 10 guests. I waited a full week until I started asking around. We’re still waiting to hear back from two or three people, but most everyone else is covered.
One couple added their college-aged daughters onto their RSVP, but I’m letting it slide since we got a few more declines than I expected.
Post # 7
Our RSVPs were due March 1st, and I gave people until the 15th to follow up with us. If we haven’t been able to get ahold of them or if they haven’t told us now, then we’ve marked them as a no.
Post # 8
Our RSVPs were due March 2nd. We only got 3 cards back!!!!!!! I was so frustrated and upset. I (MOH helped) setup a personal event page on FB to try and get people to RSVP that way. We only got 9 more RSVPs there. We are still waiting on about 30 people (from his side alone!) to respond (yesterday was the deadline). At this point I’m about to lose my patience with everybody! FI doesn’t want to call his folks about it. He thinks people will just show up and I don’t want that. Seriously, what’s so hard about marking yes or no if you are coming to a wedding and how many people are coming with you?
Post # 9
@drummerbride: Sorry I wasn’t clear; I meant March 15. So the suggested RSVP date has already passed.
The no responses are ALL on his side, so I’ll ask him to start calling around/getting his parents to call next week. Thanks for the advice ladies.