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I voted yes simply because when someone writes a check as a gift and it's not cashed it throws off you checkbook for a while. Your balances don't match and you're constantly wondering why, until you realize, "Oh yeah, I gave so and so $100 for their birthday! I wonder when they'll cash it?"
aure - that's my reasoning exactly! I was just wondering if etiquette wise there is a right or wrong way to go about this! THanks!
Do it now. I can't stand when people hold checks. Your wedding isn't until the end of September. Are you telling me that your FI doesn't want to cash the checks until October? If you did that to me, I would seriously call you and ask if you even received it and when you plan on cashing it.
Actually I think its more rude to wait to cash them. Its one of my biggest pet peeves when I give someone a check and they take forever to cash it. Usually when people write a check they expect that it will be cashed right away so they make sure to have enough funds in whichever checking account. They have given you the check at that time so it can be cashed at that time!
I agree with everyone else....I hate when I write someone a check and they hold onto it!! Cash those checks girl!
The people who wrote you those checks will go crazy if you wait till after the wedding to cash. It's better for everyone to cash them now! Just make sure to send a thank-you. :)
I just received my first check with a no RSVP and I am going to cash it (our wedding isn't for more than a month!) But like PPs I agree to cash that baby because of the balance issue. :) They wouldn't have sent it to you if they didn't want you to have it now :)
I was brought up to cash checks asap after getting them because people need to balance their check book. I agree, the important thing is that you send thank you notes.
Agree with PP for all reasons stated. Cash the check and promptly send a thank you note for their generous gift :-)
I agree with PP too. Would def wonder if you received it or lost it. Cash the check so I don't end up spending that money on shoes!
Cash it asap since you have a limited time frame to do so before the check becomes void. Send out thank you notes for them promptly as well. However, I wouldn't spend the money till after the wedding.
Someone started a thread yesterday asking the same question. It was generally agreed that you should cash checks and send a thank you upon receipt. I read the same thing in Dear Abby, so I think it's the way to go.
Just in case check the date on the check to be sure they didn't post-date it to your wedding. But cash it!
Thank you all! I didn't realize someone posted the same questions yesterday...woops! Thank you cards have already been sent and I'll be putting those checks in the bank tomorrow!
I cashed mine before the wedding. I hate it when I write checks and it takes months for them to show up. And who knows if the check will be valid after the wedding (not trying to be mean, but this happens sometimes). Plus, if someone gives you something, I assume they want me to have it now.
I think you should mail a thank you note a few days before cashing them. But I think you should do it ASAP so no one is inconvenienced!
+1 at pinkpaperbride. My dad always told me that I couldn't cash a check until the thank you note was written. Needless to say, my wedding thank you notes were out in 5 days!
Write a note that says, "We'll miss you on our big day. Thank you for your gift. Your thoughtfulness and generousity are so touching." Then deposit them. It's a pain to have outstanding checks.
I too live by the rule listed by many above. Make sure the person get the thank you before the bank statement. After that it is free game in my book.
Definitely cash the checks now. Even though I balance my checkbook as soon as I write a check, I still get annoyed when the check isn't cashed in a timely manner. Though if your FI feels weird about it, you can always compromise by putting the wedding cash in a separate savings account until after the wedding!
Agree with cash checks now...but wait to spend it :) Not like you can really keep track of what money you're spending now vs later, but whatever :)
Send a thank you card immediately and just cash the check now! No sense in holding checks till after your wedding. your friends and family understand that a wedding is expensive, and im sure they are happy to help you with your special day. Besides i agree.. we wrote a check to our friends wedding that was the end of July, and I still dont see it cashed yet nor have i received a thank you card/email/call to verify they received it. So it makes me wonder everyday when they will cash it! hahah..
Cash it. Not everyone updates their registers like they should and if you wait, you could make them bounce a check! (Also: send a thank you card right away. We made sure to send ours out for checks as soon as we cashed them, otherwise we felt like big turds. ;)
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I'm hoping you all can help to settle a disagreement between fi and I. We have received a couple of checks along with RSVP's that have declined to come to our wedding. I don't think there is an issue with cashing them now since our wedding is more than a month away. Fi thinks we should wait until after the wedding.
Is it wrong to cash the checks upon receiving them??
TIA!