Post # 1
For those of you who wore a traditional cheongsam / qipao at some point in your wedding, I’d love to hear how you did it and when you changed into and out of it.
I have a ceremony dress that I absolutely adore, so I am planning to wear it for a first dance before changing. The question on my mind is, do asian brides usually wear the cheongsam for the rest of the night, including dancing? Do they change back into their ceremony dress at some point? Or into a third (or fourth, fifth?) gown?
Post # 3
I changed a bunch of times, swapping between my white dress and red cheongsam. Here’s what I did:
1) White dress – for first look and photos.
2) Red cheongsam – for tea ceremony.
3) White dress – for ceremony, family photos, cocktails, grand entrance, first dance, and lion dance.
4) Red cheongsam – halfway through dinner for table-to-table toasting.
5) White dress – changed back into after the table-to-table toasting and wore it for the rest of the night.
I really wanted to wear the cheongsam for the lion dance to be matchy-matchy with the Chinese traditions, but because there was so much going on and we were in the spotlight the whole time, I didn’t have time to sneak off and change. It worked out fine though.
I considered wearing the cheongsam for dancing because it’s much lighter, but I just loved my white dress too much. There’s only one day to be a bride so I maximized my time in the white dress. Also, I had a Chinese reception another day that I only wore the cheongsam for so I got lots of time in that dress too.
Post # 4
I think it depends on what your schedule for the wedding day is like. I wore the white wedding dress in the morning for all the traditional stuff: picking up the bride and tea ceremony. MIL wanted me to wear the cheong sam for the tea ceremony but I refused because of time restraints and trouble of changing. Then it was outdoor pictures time still wearing the white wedding dress.
We arrived at the reception, I was still wearing the white wedding dress. We had the traditional Chinese banquet. Changed into a red formal dress after appetizers so that we can go to all the tables toasting them, cake cutting, champagne popping, etc. Changed into the cheong sam after all that for the rest of the night, mainly to say good bye to people. If my MIL had her way, I would be changing into more dresses… but I rather not spend most of my time changing, or the money for extra dresses.
It’s all up to you, I know my cousins did it slightly different.
Post # 5
@CatCatWatermelon: I had an entire day of dress changes but I remember it being complicated to plan so I hope this helps. I wore both a qua and a cheongsam, as well as the traditional Vietnamese dress. And one more note, our tea ceremony was early in the morning.
White dress- arriving at reception venue for family photos, receiving line, grand entrance
Qua – Lion dance
White Dress – Beginning of dinner, cake cutting and champagne toast (we did this super early to accommodate all the other things that had to happen that night)
Cheongsam – first half of table toasting
Ao Dai- second half of table toasting
White Dress – First dance and rest of the evening
If my mom had had it her way, there would have been a “Farewell Dress” as well but that was really enough!