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    HelloKittyEsq    September 15, 2012   San Francisco

    Hello ladies! 

    I spent quite a bit on my Lazaro white dress and I love it! But I would like to get a second dress in red, a modern/western take on the traditional qi pao, to honor my heritage (I'm Chinese, first generation!). I am trying to figure out when to change into the second dress though and I would love to hear your thoughts! At the beginning of the reception? Seems like a waste of the expensive white dress. In the middle of dinner? When? After the dancing starts? Before the dancing starts? After some dancing and after the cake cutting? I'm clueless!! 

     
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    legatorain    November 20, 2010   Orange County

    I had my wedding gown on the first hour of our reception, then I changed into my cultural wedding dress for the next two hours for the traditional tea ceremony where I had to go table to table to serve tea to the guests.  Afterwards, I changed back into my wedding gown to cut the cake, do first dance, throw the bouquet, and danced the night away. 

     

    I think changing in the middle is best, it really depends on what you have planned.  If you have something culturally planned during your reception, I think it will be ideal for you change into your qi pao.  If you want to do the cake cutting, first dance, etc... in your white gown, then wear your qi pao before you do those things. 

    Good luck!

     

     

     
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    pengoala    September 4, 2011  

    @HelloKittyEsq: I have the same problem! Thanks for posting this thread.  I know I want to enter and leave the reception in my white gown, but I, too, also can't quite figure out where the qi pao is going to fit! :)

    @legatorain: Thanks for the suggestion!  Glad it worked out well for you!

     
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    mkewed2010    September 3, 2011  

    My cousin changed after the cake cutting if that helps.  I was thinking of changing after my first dance.  Maybe before the father daughter dance?  I am so clueless on this too!  But I want the pics of my first dance with my white dress.  My cousin also told me to get pics in her chinese dress she had a "last dance" at the end.  

    Another idea is to wear it to the rehearsal dinner and wear your white dress all night! 

     
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    HelloKittyEsq    September 15, 2012   San Francisco

    Thanks ladies!

    I think I'm leaning towards changing towards the end of the reception, maybe after the first dances and cake cutting. I want the traditional western stuff in my (eek, expensive!) white dress, and we're not doing anything Chinese so there's no good cultural cue to change. I just want to wear it for a little bit to show it off, so I think towards the end will be ok, I don't need many formal pic of me in it...maybe I'll do a thank you toast to the guests towards the end and that would be a good formal pic? 

     
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    ritsi_bitsi    May 2011   Canada

    @HelloKittyEsq: I just wanted to add my 2 cents to this in case you haven't decided yet! I'm Chinese and my DH is 3/4 Vietnamese and 1/4 Chinese. While I had a qi pao made, I actually ended up wearing the traditional Vietnamese dress (ao dai) instead. It was WAY more comfortable than the qi pao. Anyways, I changed from my white dress into my ao dai right before dinner and wore it through the speeches and our shoe game. Then I changed back into the white dress for the cake cutting, bouquet/garter toss, and first dance and wore it for the rest of the night. That way, I got good use out of both and was able to get photos in both dresses. Hope this helps!

     
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    HelloKittyEsq    September 15, 2012   San Francisco

    I haven't decided yet, so thanks Ritsi! After trying on some qi pao's, I'm not sure I even like the look of them on me, so I'm not sure I'm going to get a second dress now. Kinda bummed, but I'll keep looking!   

     
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    Soon2beMrs.Ka    August 11, 2012  

    I'm wearing my qipao during the tea ceremony before the wedding ceremony.. and I'm gonna change into it again in the reception near the end for that toast with every table and seeing guests off..

     
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    drewkat    November 10, 2012  

    I plan to wear my white dress to the ceremony (church), then we plan to have the tea ceremony afterwards at the reception hall.  I will wear the qi pao for the tea ceremony and wear it for the remainder of cocktail hour, so the guests can see us in our outfits (FI thinking about wearing a chinese outfit also). 

    I will then change back to my white dress before they announce us to enter the ballroom, and stay in it for the rest of the night.

    Would it be too much to have a 2nd white (cheaper) dress for dancing at the end?

     

    I think you should do your dress changes however is more convenient for your schedule of events and what you want to wear for certain pictures.

     
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    malisa0607    May 6, 2012   Denver, wedding in Las Vegas

    my sister in law wore it for her tea ceremony then changed into her white wedding dress for he regular ceremony, and then changed back into it during dinner and the lion dance, and finally changed into a different white wedding dress for the rest of the reception.

     

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