Post # 1
We’re finalizing the order of events at our reception – wedding in two weeks! But quick question… when do you cut the cake? My thought is that we do our dinner (a buffet), then speeches, then perhaps the cake, then dancing, so we don’t have to stop the dancing in order to cut cake? Hmm.
(Also, we are not having a traditional cake – our caterer is making individual flourless chocolate cakes with berries so we’re just cutting a small, normal cake that won’t be all molten in the middle. Would you have them actually serve cake or just set the little cakes on a table? Hmm.)
Post # 3
All of the caterers we met with said that you should cut the cake toward the end of the reception as a signal that things are winding down. I would have totally disagreed until this past weekend when we went to a late afternoon reception and they cut the cake maybe an hour after the buffet and everyone left right after! The reception started at 4:30, cake was cut at 6, and most people were gone by 7. The cutting of the cake did indeed seem to signal to people that it was okay to leave.
Post # 4
I agree with rachel_leigh. We also wanted to do the cake after our family dance (mother-son, etc.) to get it over with (right after dinner), but everyone (including our coordinator) told us that the cake cutting is a sign that the party is coming to a close, and that people would start to leave early before the real fun started. So we opted to cut the cake an hour before the end of our reception.
Post # 5
Wow is this true? I’ve never heard of that. We were planning on doing it right after dinner so people could start dancing while other people got cake and coffee.
Post # 6
I’m not so sure. I was advised that cake cutting should be done soon after dinner so that people are still at their table to eat cake. Otherwise, cake often goes uneaten/abandoned on the tables….
Post # 7
At my sisters wedding they did their entrance into the reception, went right into their first dance and then cut the cake before dinner started. This way, everyone was seated for both and attentive. It only took about 5 – 7 minutes before dinner got started, pictures of it turned out great, and then we started dinner and the main toasts. Then after dinner dancing got started off with the father/daughter and mother/son dances. I’m planning to do the same timeline for my wedding. It really worked out well, and if you cut the cake before dinner, I doubt anyone would think the wedding was coming to an end that early in the evening. But she (and I plan to) served her wedding cake as dessert, so it sort of had to be cut before all the guests got their cake. It might be different if the cake is something you’re planning as something the guests can take home with them.
Post # 8
We’re having a cake buffet, and I think we’re going to do the cutting right after dinner as a sign that the dessert table is open and ready for action. I think it will be obvious that there’s still much more fun to be had – especially if we go straight from the cutting to the first dance and then open up the dance floor.
Post # 9
i went to a wedding where the couple did their grand entrance and then moved straight to the cake! i kind of missed out on it because i didn’t realize what was happening, but i think they did it so they wouldn’t have to interrupt the dance party that broke out later on! so in the end although it’s a bit unusual to cut the cake in the beginning, i think if you cut it early enough, that people won’t be leaving right afterwards.
Post # 10
Cut it right after dinner. It does not take 1-2 hours to slice the cake because it does dry out during that time if you do cut it before dinner.