Post # 1
Ok this is for the married bees and for those that already know when you want the cake cut. Our dj insisted that we do our cake cutting after dinner so we have all night to dance. DH thought we should of waited. Why cause everyone began to leave and the only people that stayed was our immediate family for the rest of the night. So I want to know when did you cut your cake and did you have the same problem as me?
Post # 3
I’m not married yet…But I hear that u should wait till closer to end… So people don’t leave early.
Post # 4
We split the dancing so there was dancing throughout the night. So the cake was cut after the first time block of dancing.
Post # 5
We’re cutting our cake as soon as we get to the reception. The rest of it will be cut up and served after dinner.
I’m not worried about people leaving early.
Post # 6
Most caterers like it when you cut the cake before dinner. (This might be a regional thing though). I would take to your caterer or venue about it though. It gives them a chance to have the cake cut and ready to go after supper is done. If I had to wait until the end of the reception to get cake and I wanted to leave I wouldn’t wait around for the cake. I would just take off and go the the grocery store and pick a slice up from there!
Post # 7
Our photog REALLY pressured us into cutting it right after dinner too. (I think she just wanted to leave…sad) Anyway, I insisted we wait until AFTER the first dances and speeches so that people WOULD stick around more and not just eat and run. So we had dinner, watched our love video, speeches were given, and all 3 first dances were danced. After that we cut the cake. Then (since photog was adament her time was up and had to leave in 15 minutes) we did the boquet and garter toss right after cake. Then we got loose on the dance floor while guests were enjoying cake and hopefully joining the party on the dance floor too. Don’t let vendors pressure you to do what they want or with “this is how it’s always done” talk. It’s your day and things will and should be done your way. 🙂
Post # 8
@GroovyHippieChick: This is what we did.
We served it right after dinner and then extra was left out for people to grab later if they wanted. We had a photobooth that started after dinner so we didn’want to take away guests from that or dancing.
ETA: Our wedding was about 2-3 hours away for all of our guests so everyone was already staying at the resort for the night or leaving early, so cutting the cake didn’t affect when people left at all.
Post # 9
We are cutting the cake closer to the start so we save on extra hours for the photographer!! Not worried about guests leaving early either!
Post # 10
Also, (and this was a selfish request but I didn’t care b/c the cake was expensive) I actually wanted to enjoy looking at my cake and seeing its master-piece-self in the ballroom for a while before it was dismantled and distroyed. I don’t like it when the couple come in and the first thing they do is dive into the cake defore dinner and before you know it the cake is torn apart and gone. 🙁 Sad.
I was also a cake cutter for a friend’s wedding who did it like that and I didn’t even get to sit and eat dinner with everyone b/c I was cutting her huge cake for an hour and a half. DH had to grab me some luke-warm food from the buffet right before it closed and then it sat at our table until I could get done and actually eat. I do NOT recommend making your family or friends do this.