(Closed) Help please! situation re. when to have bridesmaid party

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think you can do it before or after the wedding.  Can you ask your bridesmaids and see if they have a preference?  Your mom says she is busy and July doesn’t work well.  I’m curious, what role will your mom play?  What will she have to do? 

If it were me, I would prefer to do it before the wedding.  It keeps it “in the season” and would let me know how appreciated I am.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Is your mom worried about having to make sure the house is spotless before the party?  I know that’s what my mom would be concerned about in this situation.  Maybe you could offer to come clean it beforehand so she doesn’t have to?  Or hire someone to do it the day before?

Post # 6
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Good point @bryce234.  If it works better for the girls and you, you should try to do it before.  If your mom cannot accommodate that, can you host at one of the girls’ homes with the same deal?  Is part of the issue that your mom is uncomfortable having people at the house without her there? Has she met these women before?  Could you explain to her why you want it before the wedding and talk to her about what your vision of the event is, asking what her concerns are and addressing them as appropriate?

Sorry to raise so many questions – I know that’s not always helpful.  🙂

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