Post # 1
I’m still up in the air about when to have the rehearsal dinner. First off, we are *not* actually rehearsing for the wedding. We have a small wedding party (MOH, best man, 1 bridesmaid, 1 groomsman).. and it would cost us extra to have the Justice of the Peace at a rehearsal, etc etc… and I have faith in my friends/family that they’ll figure out how to walk down the aisle without mishap. 😉 SO no rehearsal… but thanks to wedding tradition, I do feel pressured to hold a dinner, if just to give out presents and thanks. (Mind you, FI and I are fronting the costs for all of this. Doesn’t come cheap). So we picked a local brewery to have a low key (read: cost-effective) dinner of pizza and beer. The stressed out bride in me would really like to have it on the THURSDAY before the wedding (our wedding is a Saturday), so that I don’t need to stress about hosting a dinner the night before the wedding… but for ease of our dinner guests, I’m sure a Friday night dinner would be better schedule-wise.
When are you having YOUR rehearsal/rehearsal dinner? Are you stressed about having to go to a dinner party the night before your wedding? Tell me I’m not the only one in this. 🙂
Post # 3
Our rehearsal dinner is the night before the wedding, but that is because we have a lot of out of town guests we want to include and we do not want them to pay for an extra night of hotel. We have not booked our location yet, but it will probably be at a local brewing company- very casual.
If you are just planning to include the wedding party and immediate family, and everyone is local I would have it on Thursday night to keep you relaxed. Also, feel free to make it cheap- pizza is fine, it’s about what you can afford and everyone loves pizza.
Post # 4
I wish my family were open to Thursday night – it is about $1,000 cheaper to hold the dinner that night at the places I have priced out. Sigh.
Post # 5
We are going to have ours the afternoon prior to the wedding. We are just having the wedding party and us and our planner and doing it at our house. I am going to order Chinese food for everyone and then me and the girls will leave to the venue and not see the guys until the wedding.
Post # 6
Ours is also the night before… I really feel like this is the more appropriate choice, just based on schedules. Are any of the attendees coming in from out of town? If so, definitely do it the night before. If everyone’s local, I think you have a bit more freedom and flexibility, but I still do think that the night before provides a more seamless transition to the wedding.
Besides, I think the stressed-out bride in me would totally be all over some pizza and beer mid-stress! Sounds like a great way to relax to me… ;D