Post # 1
Okay, I need some Weddiquette advice here: Our guest list is at 145 with 71 individual households. Out of these 71 households, I would categorize 22 of them as out of towners, where they might consider staying overnight somewhere if they came at all.
I sent Save the Dates last month (Wedding is in March 2013), but there are 10 guests on the list that were NOT sent STDs, because they were added to the list after the fact (coworkers). Of these 10 people, 6 of them are in California (wedding is in NY). Should I send out invitations to them a little earlier than everyone else? Should I send ALL invitations out earlier than normal?
Is mailing them right after Christmas a good idea for a March 24th wedding date a good idea? Or should I stick to my original plan and send them in the middle of January?
Also, do I need to get a hotel block? I wasn’t planning on it, but I can look into it.
Post # 4
Are you out of STDs? If not, I would suggest sending them one now. Or, if there’s a way to let them know they’re invited to your wedding another way (send them an e-mail or something), I’m sure they would appreciate the heads up. A flight from CA to NY might require some saving up.
Post # 5
@csteen85: I’d send them out no earlier than a week into January if you want to send them a bit early (8-10 weeks is standard). If you send it too close to Christmas and New Years, then your invites are more likely to get overlooked or shuffled into holiday related things.
Post # 6
I would get a block, even if only a few people use it. It’s a nice courtesy for thoses traveling.
I would reach out to the people in CA individually before you send out invitations and just let them know the date (either via phone or email) – I would say you want them to be able to be there so you wanted to give them a little more notice on the date than the standard invitation. And then send all of the invites out a 2-3 months before the wedding. Some people who have sent them around the holidays have said they plan the send-out date so that it’s either before or after the rush of holiday cards so the invite doesn’t get lost in all that.
Post # 7
I would suggest getting a hotel block. 90% of my guests are in town and the 10% could just stay with a relative in town but I reserved 10 rooms just in case. I know my wedding planner needs a room so that’s why I went ahead and reserved some. My wedding is during Thanksgiving weekend so I thought I better be safe than sorry.
Post # 8
Wedding invites typically go out 6-8 weeks in advance. Since you have a good number of people from out of town, I’d say go with 8 weeks. If you have any extra STD’s, I’d send them out to people who were added late or send them an email or just mention it the next time you talk to them.
I would also set up a hotel block. They don’t cost you anything (sometimes you can even get a free shuttle or bridal suite) and they usually give guests a discount on the rooms.