Post # 1
So, I have a wedding timeline through weddingwire, but obviously it does not tell me when I need to do things like order kippot, benchers, and the ketubah. Anyone have any thoughts about this?
Also, how many kippot/benchers are you ordering? Do you need to order them for all your guests, or do you assume that there will be some people who won’t take them? We are having around 200 guests, of diverse religious backgrounds.
Post # 3
I’m borrowing benchers from our shul. We’re having 150-175 guests; will probably order 125 ish kippot; will probably look into ordering in a month or so for our June wedding. Doesn’t hurt to order early…
Post # 4
I went to a modern orthodox wedding in august and they had probably around 200 guests. To be honest, by the end of the wedding when they actually did the benching there wsere maybe 50 people left. They brought everyone left at the end closer to the sweetheart table and did the prayers. They had set out the benchers on all the guest tables….I would order less if you’re looking to save $ and pass them out when you call everyone over to begin the prayers. For 200 guests, I wouldn’t get more than 50, especially if you have people from such diverse backgrounds! In terms of kippot, my wedding will be ~150 guests, I was thinking about ordering 75-90, based on how many men end up coming. I’ll end up with a lot left over I think, just because our guests will be fairly mixed in terms of religious background. But yeah…you only need them for the men 🙂
Post # 5
I ordered my ketubah last week for my wedding in May. They were running a discount, though. I think the standard for proofing and delivery is typically two months or so.
Post # 6
Order whenever you can afford them or whenever you find a special (they are usually on sale in fall) If you are getting embroidery etc…account for this. I had to order from one place and get another to do the embroidery because they wouldnt do the logo we needed.
I would order MORE than the number of guests you have, everyone will grab one, even non-jewish guests. Mazeltov
Post # 7
I am curious for the OP or others who had benchers at their weddings: how many did you order, how many total guests did you have, and how many were you left with at the end of the night?
I am planning a Conservative Jewish wedding with 200-250 guests from across the denomination spectrum. It seems that at most weddings I attend that have benchers, a ton are leftover. I’d love a way to estimate so that we have plenty for everyone who wants, including our non-Jewish friends, but also don’t end the night with 150 extras!