Post # 1
I’d like to plan a small party this summer for my whole bridal party (14 total) and our parents. It’s not really an engagement party, just a get-together to kick off the wedding planning season.
The problem is, I’m too shy to ask my future mother-in-law if we can have this gathering at her home, which has a beautiful deck and pool area, because I know she is going to host the rehearsal dinner.
I wouldn’t expect her to pay for anything at all, as far as food and beverages go, at the informal gathering, but is asking her if we can have it there asking too much of my future in-laws?
Thanks for the comments!
Post # 3
I think an informal gathering of the bridal party & parents is a great idea…it’s a chance for everyone to get to know each other.
If you’re not comfortable asking, how about having your FI ask his parents? Like you said, since they are hosting the RD, just make sure he includes in the ask that you are planning to pay for everything, but you are just asking if you can use their home as the location for the party.
Here’s a tricky questions…are all of your bridal party members single? If not, do you plan to invite their SOs/spouses? The reason I ask is that you’re kicking off the planning which means there’s going to be a few times that you ask your attendants to do things solo with you, which is expected.
However, a party-type thing like you’re planning would be weird to leave their spouse behind for, so I’d include the SOs if you can.
Post # 4
I agree that your FI should ask – after all, they’re his parents, and it’s his bridal party too! I think your FILs should be flattered that you think their home is so nice, and if you make sure your FI makes it clear that you want to foot the bill and take care of the prep and cleanup then it’s not like it’s any extra work for them. Although if it was my parents, they would insist on at least helping to get ready and pay for the party.
I also agree that you should include SOs in this type of event. It will be nice for them to get to know everyone too – and they will feel less awkward later if they all know each other – rather than coming into the RD as essentially strangers, while the BP are all friends.