Post # 1
I’d like to plan a small party this summer for my whole bridal party (14 totoal) and our parents. It’s not really an engagement party, just a get-together to kick off the wedding planning season.
The problem is, I’m too shy to ask my future mother-in-law if we can have this gathering at her home, which has a beautiful deck and pool area, because I know she is going to host the rehearsal dinner.
I wouldn’t expect her to pay for anything at all, as far as food and beverages go, at the informal gathering, but is asking her if we can have it there asking too much of my future in-laws?
Thanks for the comments!
Post # 3
Not at all. When you ask make it clear that the party is in honor of your bridal party and parents for all that they have done and will soon do. Make it clear that you are footing the bill as well as the post party cleaning ;-)… I am certain she will be flattered you love her house/deck!
Post # 4
I agree with MsIndecisive. It isn’t too much to ask, as long as you are willing to d0 the set up and cleanup in addition to fotting the bill (and perhaps offer to help with any house cleaning or yard work leading up to the party since that is waht stresses people out about parties a lot)
If you are still too shy have your FI ask with you. Have him broach the subject (aka do the actual asking) and you can fill in the details.
Post # 5
I agree with MsIndecisive. I think your FMIL would be flattered that you think so highly of her home! I’m assuming your relationship with her is on good terms…so with that in mind, I think you should definitely ask. At the end of the party, might I suggest getting her a little something…perhaps flowers, or cookies, to thank her for being so kind to let you use her home.