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So within my hubby's group of friends, the majority of couples have a baby. There is one wife who is constantly hounding people about when they will have a baby. Currently, we are one of the few couples without one or one on the way. I am pretty open talking about our reasons for waiting right now with others, but for some reason this wife is driving me (and many others) insane. I don't want to talk about it to her because of her approach to asking. It is SO RUDE. How does she know we aren't having fertility problems, or that the others aren't? Or that we have reasons for waiting that make sense to us and it's not her business to push? She is so pushy about it and always making comments, not just questions... for example, "Your new carpet is just in time for a baby" etc. I've spoken to other wives about it and we're all frustrated, even the ones with babies. I'm thinking I might say something, but I don't want to start a war. I really think she has good intentions but it is getting ridiculous. 

Have you confronted someone like this before? If so, how did it go? Any advice? Should I just shrug it off instead of saying something?

The next time she asks when you're going to have a baby, try one of these responses, lol:

"Well, we're waiting to see how yours turn out before we decide."

 "As soon as they're worth more on the black market."

 "As soon as I figure out how" -- maybe add, "Any tips, suggestions, or favorite positions?"

 "When they come with a guarantee."

In line with what moderndaisy and caszos have suggested, if you want to give her a more serious response (than the silly ones I suggested above, lol) here is something that will maybe make her THINK about how rude she's being, and perhaps she'll stop:

 There are thousands of couples, desperate to have a child, who struggle with infertility, mostly in silence. Every time they see smiling mommies at the playground, or go to a baby shower, it's a traumatic experience -- reminding them of the joy that they can't have. I'm not going to tell you whether we're one of those couples or not, because it's not your business. I'm just going to tell you how hurtful your well-intentioned question is to someone who is. Please don't ask me, or anyone else, again.

I realize that it's probably better to use one of the mature and tactful responses suggested here, but I would REALLY love to hear her response to "As soon as they're worth more on the black market."

Thanks for the ideas/responses, ladies. My husband and I are discussing if I should say anything, mostly out of our own aggravation but also for the other people she could genuinely be causing pain for by asking. We do have some friends that may well have been trying or had miscarriages, and I think everyone in our group is starting to get upset that she has the audacity to disregard anyone's potential sensitivity to the issue. Yes, she does have a baby, but she has been like this for years. It's only getting more annoying to me because of her frequency of comments, and the fact that we really do want to be TTC'ing right now but are waiting awhile longer for various reasons.

@Monkeygirl, that (second) response may very well work. Thank you. I may email her and say something to that effect. I am generally a pretty soft-spoken, not-rock-the-boat kinda girl, so while I love some of the salty comments suggested, I don't really want to start a war. But I think someone needs to say something.

You shouldn't be starting a war by asking her to politely back-off with the baby comments, and if it does start a war is she really someone you want as a friend?! Hope it all works out and she drops the baby comments!

I would be clear with her when you're asking that either you personally aren't having fertility problems or that you DEFINITELY don't want to discuss it - i say this because my sister had an almost identical situation to yours (with a friend always enquiring when's the baby coming), and she was having serious issues conceiving.  she took the friend aside and had a serious conversation with her where she said something to the effect of "we're been struggling for 6 months and would really appreciate if you'd relent with the constant baby questions"...well, its like it only spurred her on.  THe "friend" then started sending links to fertility doctors in the area, buying her chinese herbs which are meant to boost fertility, even enquiring about what kind of underwear her husband wore!  It was worse than it had been before.  so, i suppose just be careful with what you say and how you say it because with friends like that its easy to open new cans of worms.

Thanks again ladies. @ScarlettBegonia, great point! I could so see that being her approach. I was actually thinking that if I do say something, I should probably also tell her that we haven't started trying and won't be for a bit. Otherwise she will likely spin that into maybe we're having problems with fertility, and then start telling people that. (Which opens up a whole other issue with her).

Thanks bees. The thing is, this girl may not have ill intentions, but her asking is inappropriate, regardless of what the OP's reasons are for not TTC. Some people simply don't understand that it's just as rude to ask someone when they're having a baby, as it is to ask someone how much they weigh or what their income is. I think that this girl just sounds ignorant- she may not realize she is being rude at all. Regardless if a couple is having fertility issues, or isn't TTC at the moment, or is childless by choice- it's an individual decision, and is just not something to ask people about. You will have a child IF and WHEN you and your husband decide to have a child. Period. It's none of anyone's business.