Post # 1
I am planning on sending my invitations 8 weeks prior to my wedding and I have gotten a lot of feedback from friends and family about this being wrong. So I’m asking all you married people, engaged people and anyone that has an opinion really, How many weeks prior, do you think they should be sent out?
Post # 2
I have heard so many “rights and wrongs”, but honestly, I think you should do what’s best for you and your group.
In the grand “pros and cons” of it all, the pros for sending invites out early could be that people will have plenty of time to book their travel, make arrangements, and save money.
Some of the cons might be them “forgetting” about the wedding, or losing their invite, or something along those lines.
So really, it’s up to you and your judgement. But 8 weeks out doesn’t seem like that massive of a time frame away from the wedding.
My DW isn’t until August and I just sent my invites out this week.
Post # 3
6-8 weeks is the norm. I’m sending mine about 9-10 weeks because we have a lot of out of town guests.
Post # 4
If it’s not a destination wedding, six to eight weeks before is appropriate. If it’s a destination wedding, three months is more reasonable. Did you send save-the-dates? That takes some of the pressure off getting the invites out early, but there is still nothing wrong with 8 weeks for the invitations.
Post # 5
I think you are sending them out at the perfect time. We sent ours out 8 weeks in advance and I am really thankful that we did. Our guests had time to figure out travel plans and we have plenty of time after getting our RSVPs to plan for the exact number of people who are coming.
Post # 6
Our room blocks expire 4-6 weeks before the wedding. If we had an RSVP date of 2-4 weeks before, I know that many won’t think of booking a room until they respond, and that will be too late. (The wedding is part way between the bride and groom’s home towns).
Our RSVP due date is 6 weeks before, which will give us 2 weeks to track down the late/non-responders, and get numbers in 4 weeks before. The number of plates isn’t due then, but the number of chair covers and centerpieces/tables is. We’re sending the invitations out 3 months before the wedding.
Guests got the save the date magnets 10 months before the wedding, complete with the website address, and the room blocks were set up before then and on the website, but I’m not optimistic that people have looked at the website yet.
We sent out e-mails and texts, to all the ladies invited to the shower, when we booked the restaurant, 5 months before the shower. You’d be surprise how many people didn’t take it into consideration, when scheduling work, and/or haven’t RSVPd yet.
Post # 7
We are (hopefully!) sending ours out next week. We still have to stuff and stamp, though. That’s 9 weeks in advance, but we have a lot of OOT guests and my shower is the next week. For some reason I feel like it’s better to have the invitation out before the shower, but that’s a completely self-imposed thought. Also, I just have figured I would have them out by my birthday. Again, no reason, it just seems like a good deadline.
Our STDs were sent out 8 months in advance and our RSVPs are due by May 15, about three weeks before. Our hotel block closes the week before the RSVPs are due.
Post # 8
We are having a DW in Vegas Nov. 15th, and I just sent out my STDs mid-march (8 months ahead). They had our website on there so people can start to get scheduling/flights together.
Official invites are going out mid-to-late July, about 4 months before the wedding. Our deadline for RSVP is 2 months before the wedding, as we have to have final count 45 days prior, so it gives us a week or two to hunt people down.
This is just how we are doing it, so not sure if it’s “correct” or not, just my 2 cents.
Post # 9
Lydibug: It does also depends on where you live. There are some UK sites that say send them as soon as you confirm your date. We are in the middle of sending ours out now for our August wedding with an RSVP date of 1st June. We had relatives asking about them months ago!
We would have sent them sooner but we wanted to have the menu tasting first and the venue stuck in their heels after telling us that we could do that in January. We did send STDs our last summer. (Gran thought the STD was the invitation)
Post # 10
We have a lot of out of state guests and also our wedding is Labor Day weekend so people have to book hotels at least 2 months out. We’re sending ours out at the beginning of June and our wedding is end of August.
Post # 11
Lydibug: what timing are your friends and family suggesting? I based our timing off of what works best for guests and us even though we all preferred earlier than is typically recommended on the bee because it’s a destination wedding with A second wave of invites.