When to send invitations for an international wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

emi11:  Have you considered Save The Dates? They let the people know about the wedding in plenty of time to make plans and save up for expenses if necessary.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My husband’s side had to travel overseas for the wedding. We sent out save the dates in late spring 2013 for our January 2014 wedding. I would do save the dates 6 months or so ahead of time. That leaves enough time for flights to be bought, but you don’t have to worry about RSVPs getting forgotten about. Send out the invitations around the normal suggested mark.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I second Save the Dates. Send those out as soon as you know a definite date and venue, then send out the actual invites 2 months out or so

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I am doing something similar, and we just sent out the invites 5-6 months in advance (on top of communicating with lots of people verbally before that point to confirm our plans and see if they were available on the date). It’s useful to have some approximate idea of attendance a few months out. Seems to have worked out fine for us.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

emi11:  DH and I were living abroad while organising our wedding and most of our guests were international. We sent Save the Dates in Jan for our August wedding, though most of the guests already knew when it was. The advantage of STDs over early invitations is that you might not necessarily know the exact timing of your day, or you might not have decided on food options (if you’re putting this in an RSVP card) The STD lets people know the date so they can organise travel etc and the invitation is more specific closer to the event.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

emi11:  Hahaha – they may say that, but despite actually sending out invitations AND confirming by email AND confirming in person, we still had at least 3 people think it was a different date and almost book flights that left before or during our wedding. Including my own father! So I think everything you can do to hammer the date into their heads is a good thing.

You can also just use e-invites like paperless post. They still look pretty cute and make it easy to RSVP and keep track of guests, but either cost nothing or very little.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

emi11:  The wedding was in the UK in my home town and we were living in Paris. We had a 2 week holiday the August before where we got a venue, photographer and dress. We were able to go back for a few weekends and for Christmas to do more stuff. All invitations etc were handmade by us online and my parents and sister were an enormous help making appointments and stuff. It was also a pretty small wedding – only 40 guests out of 60 invited.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you don’t want save the dates send them now. I would prefer a year to book time off and save money. Some people (in hospitals for example) may need a year to book holidays, especially at busy periods

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