Post # 1
Hi. Looking for some ideas on timing. We are having a small destination wedding in May, 2010. We sent out Save the Dates 11 months before the wedding and have a wedding blog from which we send out updates, and plan to send more. I have a feeling most people we invited will know at least 3 months out if they are coming or not. So, I’ve been thinking that sending formal invites 6-8 weeks prior will be just that – a formality. Do I still send them out then? Or do I send them out 3 months before the wedding? And do I send response cards? If so, when would I have them due? I’m confused by all this because I don’t want to be weird about it, but as our wedding is on a weekday and will require EVERYONE to fly, I’m guessing most people will know soon if they are coming or not! Any ideas would be appreciated. I’m normally clearheaded but think I have wedding brain and am unable to make decisions:(
Post # 3
When do you need to give a guest count to your venue/caterer? Some people won’t read your blog and might forget about the STD. I think three months with an RSVP of one month out might work well. But it depends on when you need to know how many will attend.
Post # 4
I would go ASAP as in 3 months. I am a total planner though. Maybe find a balance at 2 months?
Post # 5
We sent ours out at Thanksgiving with an RSVP date of January 15. I have to have final numbers in February 3.
Post # 6
We’re month twins!! I’m getting married May 28, 2010 in Aruba, so you and I are on the same boat! My invites are being printed now. The fi and I just proof read our invites last week. So we’re hoping it’ll be ready next week. We’ll be putting it together, then sending them out mid Jan.
We requested RSVP’s by March 15. Our resort only required a head count 2 weeks before, but I wanted to know a guest count before so I can plan OOT bags, rehearsal dinner, and other activities, also so we can know COSTS!!!
Like you said, people should already know if they can go or not, and people usually book flights 3 months before, so I thought it was good enough time! I hope this helps!! Where’s your DW?!
Post # 7
I sent out save the dates 8 months prior, formal invitations 5 months prior and I have the RSVP due date 45 days before the wedding. I need to give a final count 30 days prior, I figure 2 weeks is enough time to contact any stragglers
Post # 8
I am also having trouble with this, although my wedding isn’t until November 2010, plane tickets are super cheap right now – $300 round trip. They have dropped $700 since we got engaged. I am planning on emailing our guests to notify them of this great deal and to let them know when we are flying.
We would also like people to let us know if they are staying at our resort and if they will put a deposit down in January, especially since my FIL are letting our guests use their weeks and need to fill out paperwork with the resort. How do inform everyone and hope they reply without being pushy???
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for your comments! I still haven’t decided what to do but we get our invites next week! I feel kind of silly about all of it. I mean, two people told me yesterday they bought their plane tickets, so obviously they are coming…but I guess the invite will just make it more formal!
Adewey15 – that’s exactly what I’m struggling with, how to inform and get a response without being pushy!
Jingle96 – our DW is in Southern Cal! Time is really flying quickly til’ May isn’t it?!