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    caliocteach    8/9/2008   California

    Hello Bees!  I am sure this issue has been addressed before; however, I can't seem to find the answer.

    My wedding is August 9th and we had June 28th printed as the RSVP by date on our response cards.  So, when do I mail out the invitations?

    They are all printed up, all I have to do is assemble them (they are already addressed).  My mom says that I shouldn't mail them until the end of May and that My June 28th RSVP date is too soon (can't change it now, they are already printed!).  But we wanted to send them out before May 12th so we could put a pretty stamp on them w/o the new postage costs. 

     What do I do?

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    suzanno    7/12/08   Richland, WA

    June 28th isn't that early.  The general rule of thumb I have heard is that you send your invitations 6 to 8 weeks before the wedding, and ask for RSVP about 3 to 4 weeks before.  So you're a little earlier than that, but by weeks, not months or anything.  Also, you don't say if you sent STDs.  If not, I would send the invitations earlier than normal.  August is prime vacation time for lots of folks, and you want them to factor your date into their plans - not have their plans already made by the time they get the invitation. 

    Our wedding is July 12th, so about a month before yours.  We put June 14th for our RSVP.  My goal is also to have them in the mail the first week in May; hoping to make the end of April.

     
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    caliocteach    8/9/2008   California

    We did not send out save the dates.  We have 10 invitations going to India, 3 going to France, and at least 70 going out of state.

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    BaghdadBride    May 25, 2008   Virginia

    Yeah your RSVP date is a bit early (normally it's about 3 weeks before the wedding) but since there is no going back now I wouldn't send the invites much more then 1 month before otherwise I think people will wonder why you're sending invites out so early.   That would be mid to late may    

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    jma19      

    I'm a week before you and our RSVP date is July 1 and we're sending them sometime beginning of June. I thought about the new postage too but that's just too far in advance for me to be comfortable with. We've already sent save the dates so people know about it.

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    musingsfromhere    12 July 2008   Canada

    I had a reply date about 6 weeks before the wedding (June 1 for July 12) and sent them out about a week or two ago.  That was for sure early, but it was good to get them off.

    So far, most people have received them, and no one has complained that it was too early.  Hopefully, it won't cause any problems!

    BTW, I didn't send out STDs, but most people knew about the wedding. 

     
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    suzanno    7/12/08   Richland, WA

    It sounds like you have a lot of guests who will have to travel, some quite a long ways.  Under those circumstances it is probably better to let people know earlier rather than later.  As far as the RSVP, I think that people probably return the card very soon after receiving the invitation, or very close to the deadline, or not at all.  Since your RSVP date is so early, you may have to get on the phone and call a lot of people (if you are really serious about that date).

     
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    GreenTeaGuinness    August 23, 2008  

    I made two sets, most for 6 weeks and the other 3 weeks. That way the B listers do not feel like they are on the B list.

     
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    rebecca    September 13, 2008  

    i did exactly what greentea did. i think you're totally fine. this is what our invite timeline looks like. i agree with suzanno that with summer vacations, you'll want to give people as much time as possible.

     

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