When to send out invites if no STDs..

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

We’re not sending STDs; we are sending out invites out nearly exactly 12 months ahead of time. 

Our wedding is November 2015, and want to make sure everyone has enough notice so they can make the 3.5-8 hour journey to us.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think a General rule is 2-3 months otherwise guests forget about it.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

RhianfaHW:  sorry but if its 12 months before that is a STD. A year is way too long for a formal invitation – people will lose it, forget to RSVP etc. Plus I wouldn’t be able to clear any sort of schedule that far in advance. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Kelly6871:  Apparently in the UK STDs are pretty rare. We’ve already heard that some guests would find it difficult to book their holidays so close to Christmas with only having a few months’ notice – we’d rather send them sooner than not have anyone turn up.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

RhianfaHW:  I’m from Australia and they are pretty rare too. But I would be thinking about 5-6 months in advance. 12 is way too long. If you send something at 12 months you would definitely have to send out a reminder 6 months in or 4 months etc 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Kelly6871:  We’re having an intimate wedding of ~50 guests, most of whom are family – it’s unlikely they’d forget about the first wedding on my side, and the last of my FI’s family’s side.

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Wilson2Bee:  I would do the standard 2-3 months. I think even 3 months is pushing it

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

invitations should be sent 8-12 weeks a head of the event, with an RSVP date a week or two before the event, or have to give a final count to the caterer.

The etiquette does not change wether or not you sent out STD’s. 

Also by all means tell people about your event and datee and timing. It’s not like these people wll be (or at  least should be) surprised by the invitation.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wilson2Bee:  We are planning on sending our invites end of January for our May 2 mostly destination wedding . A little earlier than recommended but I think it’ll work for us.

I would suggest waiting until after the Holiday to send it so early Janaury 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF

My FI is from the UK and I had no idea that save the dates were rare over here until I mentioned them to him and my FMIL. We all decided that since we’re getting married in CA, however, that they were a good idea.

That being said, if we hadn’t sent STDs, then I would’ve wanted the invites sent out a few months in advance of the wedding. I don’t think that January is too far in advance for people to forget. Is there a way you could personally contact people and let them know an invitation will be coming?

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We did not send STD’s out.

Our wedding was last Friday, and we had them in the mail by August 9. Our RSVP date was September 19, which gave us almost a month to track down any that hadn’t come back.

So, it was just a little over 2 months. We did tell people prior to that though, especially family who would be traveling more than just a few hours.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

RhianfaHW:  We’re a half UK wedding and we’re not doing STDs. The wedding will be in Sweden, but half the guests will need to come over from the UK, and some from other countries around the world. So we’ve decided that we will send out our invitations in early February at the latest, for a mid-September wedding. We will have around 40 guests and most will be family. 

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