Post # 1
hi bees, hope i can get some advice on the order of various invites.
our engagement will be roughly 5 months long and we are roughly halfway through it. we are getting married at the end of july and plan to send our wedding invitations in the next 2-3 weeks, end of may beginning of june.
we are having a wedding shower at the end of june, so i think we need to send those invites out right after our wedding invitations. however, my FMIL says she wants to send the rehearsal dinner invites after the wedding invites. i’m torn between feeling like we’re dumping a lot of invitations on people at once and thinking maybe out of towners will need to know asap (as my FMIL is saying) in order to decide when to come into town. also, the save the dates just went out this week so people would have just found out when the wedding is.
i would appreciate any insight anyone has, especially those who had or are having a short engagement.
Post # 2
I don’t think it is a problem. I don’t think a rehearsal dinner invitation is really even necessary. We just invited everyone personally to the rehearsal dinner (that is usually how it is done in my area).
Post # 3
We sent wedding invites 2 months out, shower invites went out about 2 weeks before that, then I just sent rehearsal dinner invites out this week for our June 7 wedding. I don’t think you need to send those any earlier than 4 weeks out. If you want though you could just include them with the invitation for those that are invite to the rehearsal. Rehearsal & dinner only needs to be immediate family and wedding party as long as you tell them the date it should be fine.
Post # 4
thanks so much for your responses. the guest list is now 40+ people, about double the number in our bridal party and immediate family. this includes out of town guests and other people my FMIL and FH wanted to invite. maybe this is what’s causing confusion on my part.