Post # 1
I need a bit of help on the timeline for sending out thank yous for my shower gifts. I haven’t found anything definative on this, so I figured I’d come to the Hive.
My shower for Mr.ND’s side of the family was this weekend (and lots of fun!). Is it ok to not write out the thank you cards until next weekend? I don’t want to be tardy on them, but this week is crazy busy with school and wedding stuff. But if it means staying up way late to knock them out, I will. I don’t want people upset at me before the wedding, especially my new family 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think it’s okay to wait. I would not wait more than a month to send them out, but a week is fine.
Post # 4
I think it’s okay. I think the biggest problem is if people get thank you notes after they get the invite to the wedding, then some of the older folks complain, but within a month should be fine.
Post # 5
I think my mom always taught me for thank yous, regardless of event, should be sent out no more than 2 weeks afterward, especially when someone has shipped a gift, they may not know that you have received it, and if they don’t hear from you, they may wonder what happened.
Post # 6
Thanks, ladies! I have the cards purchased and the list my Bridesmaid or Best Man wrote out as we opened gifts, so now it’s just tracking down a few addresses and finding the time to write 20 thank yous. I’ll definitely get them done this weekend.
@HappierKate: Oops, our invites went out about a month and a half ago :-/ I figured you didn’t get invited to the shower unless you were invited to the wedding? I’ll just be sure to get the Thank Yous out before the RSVP deadline in 10 days, at least I’m not way bad then. Oops!
@love108: Good rule! For some reason I thought it was like 2 days, and I was getting stressed!
Post # 7
@indibee: If your shower was after the invites went out, you’re safe! It’s a big complaint I have heard from older women who get disgruntled that the shower was a month before the invites went out but they still haven’t gotten thank-yous. I don’t think your guests can expect you to have a time machine! Though THAT would be a fun wedding extra. It could be the new photobooth.
Post # 8
Since you’ve had your shower far enough out, as long as they’re in the mail before the wedding invites go out, you’ll be okay.
My shower will be after our wedding RSVPs are due back, so I figure as long as I’ve got my Thank You notes out before the wedding I should be in the clear 😉
Post # 9
@HappierKate: Boy would THAT come in handy! I’d make some hot $$ of that machine!
@WineAndCupcakes: Sounds good to me! (PS good to see you!)
Post # 10
According to Emily Post—the deadline is 3 months post-event.
I have heard you have a year for weddings, but I think someone just made that up to make themselves feel better. The latest I have received a thank you note was 9 months—but at least I got one.
My daughter had such a large turn out at her bridal tea and wedding that she just finished writing her thank you notes 6 months after the event (to which I was mortified).
But at least she sent them.
I’d rather have a “late” thank you note than no thank you note at all.
Post # 11
As with all thank you cards, I follow the protocol of as soon as you possibly can. That being said, waiting an extra week isn’t a huge deal if it’s going to help get through a tough week of school! Try to get a couple done every day so you don’t feel so overwhelmed when you get to them.
Post # 12
@indibee: Good to see you too! I just saw the thread for the post a thon Thursday, and I think I can actually join in on it 😀