Post # 1
Would you send thank-yous before or after the wedding for gifts received early? I want to make thank-you cards with a wedding picture on it, but obviously I can’t do that until after the wedding! I could use other cards for the early gift givers, or is it ok to wait until after the wedding and send them all out at once?
Post # 3
I would senis the thank you card soon. I wanted to put a lot of thought into writing out the thank you cards and it really does take time to write something really meaningful to each person. The sooner the better.
Post # 4
You should send them asap. According to etiquette you write thank yous as gifts come in.
Post # 5
I sent mine out early, before the wedding!
Post # 6
you should never prioritize sending someone a photo of yourself over promptly thanking someone for a gift.
If you are super convinced that they are desperate for a photo of you, send a second mailing.
Post # 7
@andielovesj: Thanks, I certainly wasn’t prioritizing a silly picture, but I know that a lot of people send thank-you cards with a picture so I was just wondering what they did about early gifts. I have read some etiquette references that say within 3 months is enough time, but I thought it seemed like too long. I’ll just send random thank-you cards to early gift givers and save the photo cards for the ones closer to and at the wedding. Thanks!
Post # 8
@RunnerBride13: IMO it depends how “early”
I got a gift this past week from someone who will be at the wedding, and they told me they were dropping it off now just because their floors are being redone and they need the space (they purchased two pieces of luggage for us)
My Thank Yous will be a picture of the couple at the wedding with the thank you written on the back so I think it would be odd to send a thank you right now for it.
Also another gift we got was new cookware (not on a registry) that my FI’s mother insists is a late shower gift so I can’t send a thank you because I believe she’s wrong and its a wedding gift due to the sheer cost of the set! So I’m holding off on the thank you in order to word it properly, they may end up getting two thank yous if she’s right, but I’d rather do that then assume its a shower gift and have them feel awkward/insulted that I’m expecting another gift at the wedding or something.
Post # 9
@RunnerBride13: 3 months is the maximum time. Gold standard is getting them out on the night the gift is received.
Post # 10
We’ve already received some monetary wedding gifts. We simply sent a thank you note and put the cash into an account we don’t use.