When to send thank-you cards for early gifts?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When would you send a thank-you for gifts received >1 month before the wedding?
    Right after you get the gift, before the wedding : (25 votes)
    96 %
    After the wedding with all the other thank-yous : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    20 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would senis the thank you card soon. I wanted to put a lot of thought into writing out the thank you cards and it really does take time to write something really meaningful to each person.  The sooner the better.

    Post # 4
    Member
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    You should send them asap. According to etiquette you write thank yous as gifts come in.

    Post # 5
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I sent mine out early, before the wedding!

    Post # 6
    Member
    3223 posts
    Sugar bee

    you should never prioritize sending someone a photo of yourself over  promptly thanking someone for a gift.

    If you are super convinced that they are desperate for a photo of you, send a second mailing. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    968 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @RunnerBride13:  IMO it depends how “early”

    I got a gift this past week from someone who will be at the wedding, and they told me they were dropping it off now just because their floors are being redone and they need the space (they purchased two pieces of luggage for us)

    My Thank Yous will be a picture of the couple at the wedding with the thank you written on the back so I think it would be odd to send a thank you right now for it.

     

    Also another gift we got was new cookware (not on a registry) that my FI’s mother insists is a late shower gift so I can’t send a thank you because I believe she’s wrong and its a wedding gift due to the sheer cost of the set! So I’m holding off on the thank you in order to word it properly, they may end up getting two thank yous if she’s right, but I’d rather do that then assume its a shower gift and have them feel awkward/insulted that I’m expecting another gift at the wedding or something.

    Post # 9
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    3223 posts
    Sugar bee

    @RunnerBride13:  3 months is the maximum time. Gold standard is getting them out on the night the gift is received. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We’ve already received some monetary wedding gifts. We simply sent a thank you note and put the cash into an account we don’t use.

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