When to send thank you note for gift that arrived before bridal shower/wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@leahthehun:  I sent all thank you’s immediately upon receipt of the gift.

Firstly, it lets people know that you received the gift, so they are  not left wondering if it arrived.

Secondly, it cuts down the number of thank you notes you will need to do later. If you write them as they come in, it really isn’t that big a deal.

Post # 4
3996 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m getting married on New Year’s Eve (two months!) and my bridal shower is in December. Not ideal, but the way it worked out. We’ve only received one gift so far (beautiful dishes) and I sent the thank you note right away. I didn’t want them to think that we forgot or were unappreciative of their awesome gift. I’m curious to see what other people say though.

Post # 5
6697 posts
Bee Keeper

You are supposed to send as soon as possible after receiving the gift.  Since I had no shower, my issue was not always knowing what was meant as an engagement type gift and what was meant as an early wedding present. I wrote to thank immediately anyway, simply leaving out the label of what type of gift it was meant to be and adding a line about looking forward to celebrating with them.  Sometimes we ended up getting an additional wedding gift, sometimes not.

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