When to send thank yous for shower gifts

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@lollygagon:  Send the shower thank you notes as soon as possible after the shower.

Post # 4
1644 posts
Bumble bee

@lollygagon:  Thank-yous should be sent, if at all possible, before you go to bed on the day that you received the gift. So send your shower thank-yous separately before the wedding. Similarly, wedding gifts that are sent to your home ahead of the wedding (as is proper) should be opened and acknowledged with a thank-you note immediately. Then you can put the gift away in its proper place in your new marital home, ready to be used as soon as you return home after your wedding.

Wedding gifts that are brought to the ceremony or reception (as is not proper, but very commonly done by guests who do not know formal manners) are not really “received” by you until you return home after your honeymoon; and even then are not “received” until you have a chance to open them. Then they should always be acknowledged before being used. A wise practice is to open the gift, then write the thank-you note, and then put the gift into its proper place, all before opening the next gift.

Post # 5
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@lollygagon:  I would send them separately and right away after the shower.

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