Post # 1
When should you send wedding invitations for out of town guests?
I am supposed to attend a wedding across the country in February and I have yet to receive a wedding invitation. My friend said others have gone out, but mine will not be mailed until after the new year. (One month before the wedding) Tickets for flights/hotels/car rentals, etc are expensive. I don’t want to have to shell out $1500 in one pop. Should I just assume my invite isn’t coming? I also missed out on the bridal guest hotel room rate and will be spending $70 more a night than some people. I am really annoyed. I am afraid I am on the “B” list for a wedding I consider the bride a good friend of mine.
Post # 3
I think all wedding invites should be sent out 6-8 weeks ahead of time— regardless of if you are traveling or not. Those out of towners who are very close to the bride should have been notified by word of mouth or STD earlier about where the wedding would be and hotel accomodations.
If you are as close to the bride as you think you are, then you can simply call up your friend and ask if you’re invited. As a bride, I would have no problem with someone close to me asking if they are coming or not. If I were not close to the person and she asked if she were invited, it would put me in a tough spot (because I would feel bad saying no), but oh well! You’re going to find out eventually that you’re not invited!
Post # 4
I agree! I think 6-8 weeks is a proper time especially for out of town guests.
Post # 5
My wedding is in September. I want to send out my “A” list end of June and request a response by July 31. My”B” list will be sent out end of July and I will request a response by August. Hopefully this gives everyone enough time to get a hotel, respond, etc. if they need to.
Post # 6
My wedding is the last weekend of february and i plan to send out exactly 2 months in advance with an RSVP date 1 month in advance.
Post # 7
sorry, but it sounds like you’re on the B-list!
Post # 8
I hate to say this but it sounds like a B list if she told you that she already sent out some but not yours. I think most people tend to invite everyone at once unless they have a B list.
Post # 9
@posh_princess: I’m thinking about the A list and B list thing because I’m obligated to invite my entire, large family, but I don’t think many will actually attend. If they do, then I need to change the B list by A LOT.
I’m wondering though, do you get RSVPs printed with two dates or how do you deal with two deadlines? Do companies charge extra for two sets of RSVPs?
Post # 10
@NotFridaythe13th: A “B-list” is considered very offensive (no one wants to be a second class guest). That’s not to say that you shouldn’t do it (there are obviously practical reasons), but you should never let guests know that they are on the B-list. Something like two sets of dates on an RSVP card would be wrong. you would need to print two sets of RSVP cards (which does usually cost more – but remember it’s a money saving venture to have two waves of invites).
If you want to know if your large family will attend without the cost of two sets of RSVP cards, ask your parents to ask around to see who is likely to come.
Post # 11
I think if you know a lot of guests have to travel 8-10 weeks out is a good amount of time. If only a small percentage of your guests have to travel I think 6-8 is more appropriate. Your friend is approx 8 weeks away from her wedding so she may have sent them out.
Post # 12
We’re having a destination and the invitations are going out at 6 weeks. However, we’re sending out newsletters and have information on our website about hotel blocks and discounts, etc.
Since the Bridal Room Rate already closed out, it sounds like you’re a B lister 🙁