Post # 1
Hi Everyone. My wedding is November 16. I have a total of four BMs. Two are out of town. My MOH was in for Christmas and her and I went to look at some bridesmaid dresses. I wanted to take her as she is my MOH, and she was only here a short time. But is it too early to start shopping? I thought I would take the two that are here now together to try stuff on (Now that I have an idea of what I want, I’ll see how they look in the styles my MOH tried on) and then take my other BM when she comes, possibly for Spring Break in March. If she doesn’t end up coming, I can send her the styles and she can take pictures for me there – I’ll be sure to look in big name salons that are in the US as well as Canada.
My question is, is this too early to start thinking about this now? I have one rather flakey BM who I’m afraid will be tough to get out to try stuff on. But is this just way too early? Should I wait for the spring or summer?
Post # 3
We have a LOT in common. I too am getting married on November 16, 2013 – I too have BM’s all over the place…. and I have a flake or two as well… LOL – Honestly – I have already gone looking with my two FSIL’s (this past Thanksgiving) and found the BM dresses we want & am hoping to get that info to the other ladies and get them to order dresses ASAP…- so I say – IT’S NOT TOO EARLY!
Much luck to you – and I’m sure everything will work out & everything will be perfect on your/our day
Post # 4
It is not too early to start looking, but depending on when you were planning on having them order the dresses, the styles carried may change.
However, I would caution you to be sensitive of your BM’s schedules regarding trying on dresses. After being subjected to the multi-day even of trying on dozens of dresses when the bride thought giving us more options was thoughtful when we just wanted her to pick something changed my perspective on picking BM dresses.
Out of my four BMs, three of them lived out of town. I grabbed the only one nearby (FI’s little sister) and she and I tried on the dresses. Yep, I tried on BM dresses. In the end we narrowed it down to three and I sent an email showing the company’s image of the dress and a picture of both me and my (now) SIL with all the price information and asked them to email me back their preference. A week later we had a dress picked and they went to try them on themselves. Later they told me they appreciated this and it made the process a lot easier for them.
I don’t think it’s necessary for you to actually see pictures of each of them in the dress. Most places only have one or two sizes of each dress and it’s unlikely that that will fit each girl. Just have the girls with the two most dissimilar body types try on the dress.
There will be a lot more for them to be involved with as you get closer to the wedding, so don’t burn them out on the dress.
Post # 5
I wasn’t really planning on doing multiple trips. I was planning on taking each girl once, just to get an idea. I’m thinking each girl will have different dresses, but I want the final say.. I’d like to pick 4-5 and have them choose from those selected.
One big thing is length. I don’t know if I want short or long. I haven’t asked all of them for their opinions yet, just my MOH who said she’s fine with anything.
I was thinking long originally but my MOH looked really good in the short ones. So I’m undecided.
I also don’t want anyone to feel left out if I don’t invite them out shopping. But I also don’t want to make them go out if they don’t want to. But I also don’t want them to feel obligated and tell me they want to go out when they really don’t.