Post # 1
My FI and I were at Bed Bath & Beyond the other day looking for “regular stuff” for the house when I mentioned I’d like to look at the china section (we’re casually looking for new every day stuff; we’re having a small wedding so probably are just going to register for formal china).
We’re looking at different place settings, and revisited the place setting we are thinking about registering for (Noritake Platinum Wave) when one of the ladies at the Registry counter asked us if we were getting married, and then said, “Just so you know you should set up your registry 6 months before the wedding.”
I think I threw her for a loop when I asked her why. “Well, sometimes things get discontinued” (but then why would we want something from a china pattern that was getting discontinued if we’re just going to have to sign up for something else?)
“Well, you should have it ready for all your bridal showers and parties”.
This didn’t really seem like a good reason either, because bridal showers are usually within 2 months of the wedding.
I kind of want to chalk it up to the Wedding Industrial Complex (WIC) but at the same time would like to know who started this whole “six month” thing. It just seems arbitrary to me.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Yeah, 6 months is complete bullshit. That’s WIC for ya. Stores run out of stuff ALL the time, change colors, etc. Don’t be badgered into anything less than like 3-4 months.
I started mine a year prior but I am CRAZY and loved researching every single product I put on there. Literally not one person has looked at my registry (on amazon.com, which is easy), and we are about 5 months away from my wedding!
Post # 4
I started mine over a year in advance just so I could get that “ooo registering is fun!” out of the way and I could weed those off the registry before anything was purchased. (eg. Formal China, I removed because I will never use it…. at least not for many years and who wants to store it for that long?)
It also made it easy when family wanted to buy me pressents for Christmas, they just looked at the registry 🙂
Post # 5
@lealorali: How did you like Amazon’s interface? FI wants to register on Amazon, but I’d like a store people could go to in person (we have some. . . less technical-savvy folks on the guest list). Macy’s is out on principle (FI hates it for some reason) even though they have an awesome registry program.
@Elky: “I could get that “ooo registering is fun!” out of the way”
LOL! I’ve heard horror stories about overzealous people with the bar code scanner! One of my friends had a baby a few years ago and went NUTS with the scanner; she told me later that she had no idea what was on her registry!
I figure we’ll probably sign up for ours around 3-4 months out.
Post # 6
@Anise: Haha I could see that happening easily 🙂 I probably purged at least half of my registry when I came to my senses 😉
Post # 7
I thought the 6 month thing was crazy too. However, we ended up registering about 8 months before our wedding. We don’t live together (I moved back home after college and he just got his own place last year) so we NEED a lot of stuff. I figured we’d get it out of the way, and as we thought of other things to add, it’d be easier to have the registry set up already. You may get some surprises though! Turns out, FI’s cousin asked his mom where we were registered, and over the weekend we got our first gift! She wanted to get us an engagement present since we didn’t have a big engagement party. But I wouldn’t say you HAVE to do it 6 months ahead of time. I think as long as its set up before your shower, you’re good.
Post # 8
We are having a 6 month engagement but my first bridal shower is 4.5 months before the wedding because I am in college and we want to do it before finals and before graduation which is exactly a month before the wedding.
Post # 9
We’re getting married at the end of April and we just started registering this month. At this point I think both my showers are being held in March–so really we have plenty of time still. I’d be way more concerned about registering too early. As a guest, it’s kind of disappointing if half the things on the list are discontinued (and it’s happened more than a few times in my experience!)
Post # 10
I’m using an app to plan my entire wedding registry (called Wedding Registry by iList Apps). You don’t have to adhere to the 6 month rule if you’re using it….because it doesn’t take anywhere near 6 months to add your items. I guess that’s the advanatge of not having to go to a single store in person! I’m in the process of finalizing my registry and then sharing it with my guests — I’m thinking as long as I give them 2 months that should be plenty of time, plus they have all the item details right at their fingertips!
Post # 11
We’re getting married in August, and my FI’s aunt wants our completed registry information by the end of the month (January). We’ve been rushing like crazy trying to get it done.
She wants to have my bridal shower at the end of March though, so who knows.
Post # 12
We registered about a month before Christmas (so 7 months out). It was great because we got a bunch of Christmas gifts from our registry and they were actually things that we wanted.
Post # 13
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I had my bridal showers 3 months out from the wedding because of the holidays, so we set up our registry 4 months out.
Really, you could set it up a freakin’ week before your first shower and be fine because I registry stalked and NO ONE bought anything more than a week out! Also, register for mostly in-store items because with that kind of time frame no one is ordering stuff online and having it delivered in ONE WEEK!
4 days out from the wedding right now and I have ONE purchase on our registry!
Post # 14
@Anise: well my shower was 6 months before the wedding so I registered earlier obviously.
Post # 15
@CourtneyGettingMarried: That looks like a cool app!
Post # 16
@Anise: The earlier the better. It’s super tedious and it’s better when you’ve had enough and you can just leave and pick it up another day. We’re almost done with BB&B and we’re moving on to Crate & Barrel next.