Post # 1
This is my first post…so bear with me please 🙂
We’re getting married in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico on August 8, 2008. Because San Miguel is located in a colonial city..we were unable to go with an all-inclusive style of wedding (not that we would have, necessarily). After finding and eventually "firing" one planner, we secured a venue which includes planning, catering, music, etc. We will not be able to go to San Miguel prior to the wedding, so have been corresponding with both the caterer and hotel person (who is apparently handling the music/tequila burro/etc.).
Okay..so basically, I realized I have less than 6 months to go and other than having a venue..I have pretty much nothing accomplished (not for lack of trying). I did send out save-the-dates…i’m in the process or ordering invitations, and I did make a wedding blog….I’ve researched flights, other places to stay for the rest of our trip, set a budget, etc but have heard very little from our "peeps" in Mexico. I’m not sure whether it is normal to plan the flowers, confirm the menu, pick the music, etc during the last few months or not???? Should I be pulling a bridezilla and demanding answers? I shold note that our correspondence has been frustrating at best….although I have paid deposits for the catering and hotel, I do not have a signed contract with them listing what they will and will not provide and the total cost. I am mostly worried that either things won’t get done at all or that things we didn’t agree to will be done and then we will have to pay extra (which we cannot afford).
Any comments, ideas, suggestions at this point would be very helpful. I don’t really have any married friends, and our attendants live in cities across the country..so I’m turing to the hive. Thanks in advance. Sorry so long.
Post # 3
Oh yeah. You should definately be talking with them about flowers, menu, music by now. Sounds like your venue has musicians and caterer on staff, but you need to pick the menu, right? I would also think you would want to look at the musicians capabilities as far as types of music, set lists, song choices? You will need to pick songs for the various parts of the ceremony as well as your reception (first dance, etc).
You don’t say whether they have a florist on staff, but I would think you would talk to her about your colors, flower choices, bouquets, corsages for the moms, boutonniers, whether you want floral arrangements on every table, if so what style and size…
Probably menu and flowers are the biggest variability in cost – and it can be a huge range depending on your choices.
In general I would think that you would talk to them about everything you would talk to a caterer, band, and florist about if you contracted them separately. I don’t think you’re too far behind – we have five months left and have chosen our menu, but are just starting detailed discussions with our florist and musicians.
I would also absolutely push for a contract. If you show up down there and find that something/someone is not available as promised, it is not going to be easy to pull things together at the last minute.
Post # 4
I think you’re right. We did make a few preliminary decisions re: flowers, music and food, just not really specifics. The caterer person is also the florist and decorator, cake maker etc. The music people are being handled by the hotel, we know that we’re having mariachis for cocktail hour, violin duet for ceremony, and dj for the reception…hmm..okay..I guess it’s not sounding so bad. I also have to buy a dress and rings..but luckily we’re not really going super traditional, so we’ll just pick up rings somewhere and I think I’ll get a dress made (I had a first meeting with a dressmaker, just haven’t bought fabric..I should really go and try on some dresses though to be sure!)
Good point..I think I better start asking a few more questions and get myself a contract! 🙂
Post # 5
It seems like you spend endless amounts of time talking with everyone – but that’s actually normal. Luckily my vendors call me to remind me what questions I need to ask them – and give me advice about everything else too! My latest surprise was having to pick actual music for the ceremony – to walk in and out to – which seems so simple (duh) but I had really only been thinking about general style of music for the reception.
Trying on dresses can be really fun – or horrible – but you should check with your dressmaker to make sure how much time she needs. Probably not as much as ordering a dress, but mine is taking three months to ship and its a fairly simple style.
I don’t know anything about rings, as we are having ours made – takes about a month start to finish. If you walk into a jewelry store I guess the rings in the case are for sale – not just samples like the dresses at the bridal salon?? I’m sure some of the other bees know…
The good thing about talking early to people like florists is that you can adjust your choices to your budget – they may start out really five-star, when what you want is a little less fancy – or just the opposite. Because I gather the price really depends a lot on the type of flowers.
You will have to keep everybody posted – I know several bees who are having destination weddings were moaning about the lack of postings about stuff relevant to them. And for those of us staying home, it will make us feel better that we don’t have to do all this on the phone and in an different language!!