Post # 1
I just got engaged this weekend and I’m still in that really excited kind of bubble world at the moment. I know this isn’t going to last forever and that sometime soon I’m going to want to start planning things.
My question is: when do you start planning a wedding?
My FI (!!!) and I have previously discussed when to get married and we always seem to agree that Fall of 2015 would be the best for us. That means we have about 2 years to go and all the timelines I’ve seen for planning have only been for a year. I’m the type of person who likes to get things done quickly because if I don’t I overthink things and get stressed out. . . and with FI working as an Accountant he pretty much has no life between January and mid-May.
So what do you suggest? So I continue to pin things to pinterest while casually discussing things like budget and time frame with FI? Or should we consider starting to look more seriously sometime next month to get a head start? Any suggestions are welcome!
Post # 3
I would start a draft guest list. Then you know approximately how many people you’ll have so you can look at venues that fit the number. You’ll likely meet new people to invite and lose touch with some in the next 2 years but its a start. We did venue first and are now having to make cuts to the guest list.
Post # 4
I’d say casually get your ideas together. Your must haves for venues, the colors you want, probably even start talking budget. But let your FI get through this coming tax season, then in may/june of next year, start looking at venues, and get into the booking of the important things. (photographer, venues, dj etc) Come next fall, start getting into the nitty gritty- looking at dresses, asking your bridal party, actualy buying things for the wedding. For now- start saving money!! You’ll need it!! lol
Post # 5
I’d have fun oogling Pinterest/Bride blogs and make a tentative guest list.
Then when tax season is over, I’d start looking at venues/buy a dress/put a deposit on a photog.
And when next tax season rolls around (6 month before your wedding), you can hammer out all your DIY projects while your FI is slaving away at the office!
Post # 6
i planned mine in 8 months. the first 3 months were very busy and the last 2 months were busy, but not much happened in the middle months.
i would say a year is plenty of time unless you have your heart set on a specific date at a specific venue, then book that sooner than later.
Post # 7
Good! I was thinking we should just take things slow, but I hear all these stories about how stressful planning can be so I wasn’t sure whether we should start planning sooner or not.
I think the plan for now will probably be what you all suggested: start a mock guest list, figure out budget (and what to save each month), and talk over general ideas together.
Post # 8
@LoggerHead91207: I agree with the tips on budget and saving. By the time we get married FI and I will have been engaged for over 15 months. We started planning pretty much right after we got engaged, so we’ve been able to space out some of the expenses and also to save a good amount of money. So far we’ve been able to pay for everything out of pocket and our goal is to not accrue any credti card debt from our wedding. If you start getting ideas and come up with a rough idea of what you spend, that will really help you out when 2015 rolls around!
Post # 9
I would definitely get an idea of what you want and how much it will costs so you can save- which is a major benefit of a long engagement. We will have an 18 month engagement. We took a little over a month just to enjoy the engagement (definitely recommend), but then the month after we had the venues booked and I started looking at dresses just to see what I liked and what sort of budget would get me a dress I loved. The area I’m getting married venues book over a year in advanced, and when we booked in Feb. 2013, they said there already had 2015 dates!! Booking early allowed us to have much more flexibility with the dates, and the venues locked the rates for us!
I think a few months after that we booked a photographer. They can only do one wedding a day, and when your date is booked that is it. We wanted a particularly photographer and because of the long engagement we could easily get it. DJ is the same deal, though we waited because we didn’t care as much. Florists on the other hand can do multiple weddings a day, so it isn’t such a priority. The other advantage of a long engagement is having first pick at wedding dates, venues, personnel- I’d take advantage of it if you can!