Post # 1
I am going to be 28 and FI will be 32 on our wedding day we are both dying to start a family and everyone keeps asking if we’re going to start right away. We both want kinds bu then we also want to enjoy married life. We’re also not gettign any younger LOL. Is anyone else planning on starting right away? I’m thinking come off the pill just after the honeymoon or just before?? Any tips, advice would be great 🙂
Post # 3
I’m going to post because I want to follow this thread. We are both 28 and want kids, but we are going to put it off for a bit because of financial reasons. I want to be better off before we start trying.
Post # 4
I’m 30 and FI is about to turn 37. We are getting married in January and started TTC in July. Yes, I know that we run the risk of being knocked up at the wedding. That’s just how it turned out. I had been on BCPs for 12 years or so. The first month off I hoping for that surge in fertility that some women experience after coming off BC. Instead, I had a 27-day annovulatory cycle. At least it didn’t drag on forever like many annovulatory cycles tend to do. This month, I think I ovulated around CD15 (FF tends to think I Oed on CD19 though). Unfortunately, FI was out of town during that time so I think I’m out this cycle too (unless FF was right).
My advice would be if you decide to go off BC, DON’T do it the week before your honeymoon. You do not want to deal with AF then. Especially if you are leaving right after the wedding. White dress + AF = disaster. I’d personally go off two weeks before the wedding. That way you have time to get your withdrawal bleed and not have to worry about it while on your honeymoon. That would also be just about the right timing for a honeymoon baby.
Post # 5
thanks for the tip. Have you had ppl tell you to wait and enjoy married life atleast a year before TTC? I should alsthat’s that FI and I don’t live together we’re planning to buy a house next year before the wedding. Do you think we need adjustment time?
Post # 6
@miss_melissa: Even if you decide to wait a while before TTC, coming off birth control and being aware of how your body will regulate is very important. I wish I would have come off BC months before the wedding and read TCOYF to learn when the times we should avoid BDing.
Post # 7
DH and I got Married August 3rd, and we started TTC basically right away.
I’m 30 and he’s 27. It just makes sense for our situation, we’ve had a whirlwind romance, and are getting married to settle down, and start a family. 🙂 I don’t know the answer for you.
Post # 8
@miss_melissa: We started TTC right before the wedding! I dunno, if you love the person and both are in a place financially that you could be TTC, then why not?!? =)
Agree with PP’s that coming off the pill and monitoring your body is a great idea. Maybe start charting and TTA using fertility awareness for a while…
Post # 9
We got married just over a year ago. Originally we planned to wait for 2 years or more, but around the year mark we both got baby fever. We just decided to pull the goalie. I will say, I really loved that year with DH–such a special time for just the two of us. Depending on how long you were together beforehand, you may or may not need/want that time. It is really up to you and DH to decide! Good luck!
Post # 10
I’ve been reading so many posts trying to find a situation like mine so thought I would finally post and someone can help or give advise..
I have been on bc for maybe 17 years and am 36. We are getting married in June and wanted to time it out so we can start trying on the honeymoon. i have had so many friends having such a hard time and just don’t want to waste any time. My dr said not to stop the pill before just in case of side effects and risking a period for the wedding/honeymoon. She also said to come back 3 months after the wedding if still no period because of my age.
I always get withdrawal bleeding 2-3 days after my last pill so am not worried about this happening. Assuming I start counting the day of the withdrawal bleeding, I would finish exactly 4 days before wedding which is when I feel my best so timed that out. I would normally start a new pack on the day of the wedding but am going to stop then. It seems like most who get withdrawal bleeding (period) right after like I do, I am assuming day 12-14 would be on the honeymoon..Am I right with all the timing? We are hoping we will have luck in 6 months assuming that I will get back on schedule. I know that first month is very unlikely but I just hear so many friends who got pregnant right away after being on the pill for a long time.