Post # 1
FI and I get married on June 29th 2013 (not long now! 🙂 ) and we go on honeymoon on 26th September 2013. We have decided to start ttc on our honeymoon. I’ve been on the progestogen only pill Cerazette for about nine years. I’ve been driving myself crazy recently trying to decide when to stop taking the pill, FI is just as confused as to when the best time would be as I am!
We’ve read Taking Charge Of Your Fertility and I’ve started taking prenatal vitamins, FI has been taking the conception vitamins for men. We have also made some lifestyle changes to be healthier. I definitely want to chart, and I think it would be best to do that for at least a couple of months before ttc. Then I keep reading about this so called magic super-fertility period for three months after you come off the pill, but I’m not sure whether that is true or just an old wives tale. *Sigh*
I’ve been to see our Doctor and specialist, but they were both useless and told me I was thining way too far ahead, although I don’t really think that just over 9 months is too far ahead.
So, any advice would be very much appreciated thanks bees!
Post # 3
I was on BC for over 10 years when I first started TTC with my ex-H. The first cycle after going off the pill was HORRIBLE. My body apparently went into attack mode and 5 days after going off it (and we weren’t using other protection) I had major issues.
I almost passed out at work several times….and had no idea until people said my face had gone completely white. I started bleeding heavily and my doctor thought I might be having a miscarriage….not sure why…maybe b/c we weren’t using other forms of protection. I was in the ER twice and they did blood work and found out my body was trying to “fight off” some infection. They didn’t do a PG test but my GYN said that as long as I had been on BCPs that my body was having issues adjusting to it…basically trying to make its own hormones.
I’m in NO way saying this is gonna happen to you…just sharing my story. I went on BCPs when DH and I were first together and the hormones were TOO strong but when I went off of them I had issues again although not as bad as the first time.
For me personally, only the month after stopping them was the bad one….after that it returned to a normal cycle with me ovulating every month.
Post # 4
Hi texasbee, oh my goodness!!!!! That’s horrendous!! I’m really sorry to hear you had to go through that. I do wonder if the first month won’t be very fun though, that was why I was thinking about coming off well before our honeymoon, I don’t want to be feeling dreadful all the time we’re away! Thank you for sharing your story x
Post # 5
My experience wasn’t so scary but it’s taking me a while to regulate post BCP. But my doctor strongly recommended to me that I go off the pill 3 months or so prior to TTC, which is why I’m recommending it to you. She recommended using condoms until we were ready to really try. Part of the reasoning was that should you conceive it’d be easier to figure out the baby’s true conception, whereas the unpredictability of a cycle of BCP could be confusing.
If you’re worried about it taking a while to regulate, you could absolutely go off the BCP earlier. Just make sure to use backup protection. And start charting once you go off so you start to get a sense of what’s going on and what more fertile periods you might wanna avoid having sex.
Post # 6
@TheHaesterReturns: Because you have read TCOYF I would suggest coming off now. Start temping and figure out when your fertile days are and use that information to prevent getting pregnant before you want to. Coming off BC can really mess with your body. Thankfully my period regulated right away but not everyone’s does. I always wonder if I would have gotten off BC sooner if we would be pregnant yet.
Post # 7
@canadablue thank you for your reply, if you don’t mind me asking, how long did it take you to regulate? I think that at least 3 months ahead it a really good idea. We are definitely going to start charting as soon as I come off though, and will be using protection as I don’t want to fall before our honeymoon!
@lindsey_k_16 thanks very much for replying and for your advice, I am very worried about how long it will take my body to regulate. I’m going to have a chat to FI about it tonight
Post # 8
I stopped my pills about three months before we started trying, and we conceived on our second cycle of trying. I don’t really believe in that magical fertility period after getting off the pill, I think it’s better to give your body a few months to regulate.
I voted three months before/wedding day.
ETA: I felt completely normal after going off the pill and my cycle regulated quickly, but everyone is different!
Post # 9
I’d wait til the wedding unless you’re willing to use a backup method to prevent pregnancy up til the wedding. Personally, I tossed out the BC right after the wedding, cause I was really okay with being pregnant at any time. It’s a tough balance, becuase in theory you can get pregnant the first month off of BC, but on the other hand it could take your body a long time to adjust to being off it. I say err on the side of stopping earlier!
FWIW, I’ve been off for about 3 weeks and feel no different.
Post # 10
I am SUPER irregular without BC. My first period coming off of BC didn’t arrive for 7 weeks. I was taking pregnancy tests every week. When my period finally came, I cried (although I was grateful to at least know at that moment where I was in my cycle). I got pregnant my second cycle, 2-5 weeks after that period, depending on which U/S you went by (husband to this day is convinced the doctors were wrong the first 8 months of my pregnancy and when I gave birth at 39 weeks, I was actually only 36 weeks along).
I didn’t do anything special- I didn’t even finish my pill pack. I was maybe two weeks in when my husband suggested we start trying. I chucked that pack and never looked back. I do not think though there is any magic fertility surge after coming off the pill. My SIL went off the pill and got pregnant exactly two weeks after- her cycle was immediately normal upon taking her last pill. My mother on the other hand, did not get a period for months after going off BC and had to actually take fertility drugs to regulate her cycle.
Post # 11
@canadablue: I read your doctor’s rationale for waiting to TTC after going off BC–to better know the date of conception. Is that the only benefit to waiting? It just seems to me if you’re ready to be pregnant, waiting an extra few months for your body to regulate isn’t worth it just to have a better idea of exactly how far along you are. Is there a reason that’s important?
Post # 12
My GYN said to wait a minimum of two months after going off the pill to TTC. Some pills can cause a thinning of the lining of the uterus and you want to give it time to get back to normal. Also, there is a very slight increase in your chance of twins right after you get off BCP.
Post # 13
@TheHaesterReturns: I went off my BCP at the end of July and am still a little wonky. But I was wonky before I went on the pill so pretty sure it’s a combo of my age, and what used to be borderline PCOS. I’ve had my period every month however, just the cycles haven’t stabilized at a particular length. I’m on my forth cycle off the pill.
@hippomama: Her reasoning was solely to do with the due date. You could get pregnant right away off the BCP if you wanted (and people do). Old school thought was that you were more likely to have a miscarriage but that’s not accurate.
I started trying as soon as I was off the BCP due to my age and because she said she’d be willing to ‘see’ me if there were any PCOS style problems if we’d gone 9 months without conceiving. Ideally I’d like to be pregnant before I turn 35 in June.
Post # 14
Thanks for the response, that makes sense! I’m impatient and didn’t want to wait, so I’m glad to hear there’s no significant reason you have to 🙂
Post # 15
My doctor recommended that I stop 6 months before TTC. Just to let your hormones regulate.
Post # 16
@TheHaesterReturns: Just be sure you use back-up BC if you want to wait until the honeymoon to TTC. I went off BCP after 12 years at the end of October. I thought there wasn’t a chance we would get pregnant so why bother with other contraception. And yep, I’m pregnant. So, so excited, but we were planning on not actually TTC until Jan. or Feb. Long story short, make sure you’re ready to be pregnant or use another form of BCP.