Post # 1
DH and I are not pregnant yet put I have been debating on how long to wait to tell people once we do find out. I totally get why people wait intil 10-12 weeks and ideally that is what I would do. But, what about immediate family?
On one hand, if the pregnancy doesn’t end well and no one knows, you won’t be bothered with questions from people. But if people do know (at least those closest to you) then they can be there as a support system for you should something go wrong.
My sister MC’d with her last pregnancy and hadn’t told us yet. She says she will never do that again because it was so hard to not have family to be concerned and to talk to.
So I’m curious, how long will you/did you wait to tell close family/friends and everyone else?
Post # 3
I told my mom and sister while the pee test was still a squinter (actually sent them a picture to see if they saw it). Then we told DH’s parents and sister at 8 weeks. I had BAAAAD morning sickness that meant I had to take a week off work, which required a doctors note (on OB letterhead) so my boss found out at 11 weeks, and we told a few very close friends around that time as well.
We waited until 16 weeks to tell the “general population”
Post # 4
We told family at 5 weeks. We didn’t really want to tell them that soon, but it was Christmas and it was going to be a giveaway when I wasn’t drinking any wine or anything, so we decided to go ahead and tell.
Everyone else, we waited until almost 12 weeks, after I had at ultrasound at that doctor visit and all was still looking good.
It’s a scary statistic, but 1 in 5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage.
Post # 5
Since I got my BFP this morning we are just discussing this.
I told my sister and a friend this morning since they are the only people that knew we were TTC to begin with.
We will tell our parents probably after the first Drs appt. I am seeing my mom the beginning of April so it will be about 9 weeks. I may wait till then to tell her in person though. (across country)
The rest of my friends will probably be more play it by ear. Close to 12 weeks, but maybe a smidge early.
I am sure there will be a few select friends that we live near (we dont live near most) that we will have to tell because I normally drink and if I dont drink they will surely know. I can only have excuses for so long.
Post # 6
@SapphireSun: I like that you called it a squinter! haha!
@abbyful: Very scary! I go back and forth on how I feel about telling family early!
@ThreeMeers: Most of my family and friends know we are TTC, so I realize that I will probably either have to tell them, or lie. I could see it going either way! Also, mys sister is TTC and her cycle is very close to mine, so I have a feeling she will be asking me as soon as AF is due! I have no clue how we will react, I could very well see us ending up telling fam/friends early. The worst for me is disappointing them, though. I don’t want to have all the excitement and then let them down.
Post # 7
@ThreeMeers: Oh and Congrats!
Post # 8
We told our parents within a few days (at DH’s insistence) and we told everyone else after our 13 week ultrasound.
Post # 9
We would not tell anyone until after the first trimester and we knew that the pregnancy was a healthy one. We miscarried in 2009 and made the mistake of telling people, it was heartbreaking, after I had the D&C and friends/coworkers who did not hear the news already asked how the pregnancy was going and I had to tell them.
This time around we will wait until the 12-13th week.
Post # 10
In my first pregnancy I told my mom right away and my best friend and that one ended shortly after in a MC.
This time, I told my best friend right away and waited until after the first scan at 7 weeks to tell immediate family. I then told a couple other close friends at around 10 weeks. After our 12 week scan we started telling everyone as we saw them. I’m 16 weeks now and there are some friends I haven’t told because I prefer to tell people in person’
Post # 11
We told our bosses, my dad (my dad is the only surviving parent between my husband and I), his best friend and my 3 closest friends. Everyone else, including some other immediate family members, did not find out until 13 weeks and some, we waited even longer to tell.
Post # 12
Not pregnant or TTC, but when we are pregnant, we plan on keeping it to ourselves until our first scan.
I’ll probably tell my mum pretty soon after we find out and we’ll tell FI-to-be’s parents after the first scan, as well as our siblings and my/his best friend.
Everyone else, we’ll wait till after 12 weeks.
After our miscarriage though, I’m honestly tempted to not tell anyone till 12 weeks, maybe even up to 16 weeks.
Post # 13
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I’m with a couple PPs – my mom had 3 miscarriages, and I wouldn’t want to tell people before the end of the first trimester. Possibly even close friends and family.
Post # 14
I think we will probably wait until 8 weeks (assuming we will have had our first appointment by then) to tell family, definitely hoping we can wait until 12 for everyone else.
Post # 15
Immediate families and a couple of close friends after my first doctor’s appointment at 6.5 weeks. Everyone else after the first trimester.
Post # 16
I waited until I got my blood test results before telling our immediate families, I waited until after my first prenatal appointment to tell my best friend, and I waited until after our NT scan to tell co-workers and other friends. We waited until maybe 13/14 weeks to go “facebook public” with it though.