Post # 1
I am about 9 weeks pregnant and have a HUGE dilemma. Darling Husband and I got married a little over two months ago and my older sister is getting married at the end of this month. Our problem is when shuld we tell our families about our pregnancy?
We originally thought that we would tell on Father’s day. We were already planning on giving our parents their parent albums on that day and figured we could stick the first sonogram in the very end. (We got one done at 7 weeks to check that it wasn’t tubal) The problem with this is that is is literally RIGHT before my sister’s wedding. We do not want to upset her but we also need to tell the fam since I am worried that I will be showing at the wedding.
Thoughts? I really need some advice!
Post # 3
You will only be about 3 months then, right? I don’t think that you’ll be showing that much by then. What about right after the wedding…maybe a few days or the next week.
Post # 4
Is this your first pregnancy? If so I doubt you will be showing by the time her wedding rolls around. If you know that your sister would be upset about you telling your news before her wedding, I would just wait…If anything you would have a light pudge…but again, nothing tht would make people question whether or not you were pregnant…
Post # 5
Everyone’s body type is different, but I didn’t start showing until I was 6 months. A lot of women don’t start showing until 5 months. I don’t think at 14 weeks that you will be obviously showing. I think that the choice of when to tell them depends on a lot of things, but I don’t think you need to wait. I would go ahead with your plans and tell your parents, but ask them to keep it quiet until after your sister’s wedding. That way you keep your sister happy, but you can still share the good news!
Post # 6
Unless your sister is very territorial, I don’t think sharing the news on Father’s Day would be a bad idea – I think it’s sweet! As long as you don’t choose the toasts during her wedding, I think you’re safe. 🙂 that’s my opinion though – i’ve never shared news like this before!!
Post # 7
I really doubt you will be showing by your sisters wedding. Even if you do have a tiny bump, it will be easily hidden with the right outfit. I would wait until after your sisters wedding to tell your family. Don’t do it before because your sister may feel like you are trying to take away from her. Plus, I would wait until you were in your 2nd trimester since miscarriage risks are so high in the first. So, maybe do it on the 4th of July. Get your family “presents” for the 4th and then give them the album (which is a really cute idea!)
Post # 8
Maybe you could share with the parents and ask them to hold off sharing the news with siblings, friends, and other family until after the wedding.
Post # 9
You will not be showing, if there is some swelling, that is easy to hide or chalk up to bloating etc. Personally, IMO what I would do is wait until after the wedding but that is just me.
Post # 10
I have added a voting poll! enjoy and keep the thoughts coming, I really appreciate it!
Post # 11
I would try to wait until after the wedding, or tell your parents but ask them to keep it to themselves until after your sister’s wedding. Do you think they would be able to keep the secret?
Congratulations, by the way!!!
Post # 12
Love the album idea….. Maybe just keep it in the family till after the wedding if you think your sister might be mad…
My Brother and sister in law announced they were pregnany a month before my wedding, and I didn;t care one bit! I was just AS happy!
Post # 13
I’d wait until right after the wedding! Plan on a “family dinner” or brunch the day after and do the presentations then. you know your sister the best, but since you’re cutting it within a couple weeks, I woudln’;t bring up the pregnancy quite yet.
I don’t think you’ll be showing yet, though! Pick a floofy dress.
Post # 14
What if you tell your sister first, tell her you haven’t told anyone else, and run the Father’s Day idea by her?
Post # 15
Wouldn’t it be nice if I could pick my dress…..unfortunatly I’m in the wedding party (that sounds bad I am glad I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man but in this case…) The dress might be able to hide the bloat/beba but the boobs are a whole other story. I am usually quite small up top, nothing to write home about (As barely Bs) now they are full fledged Cs (still growing too!) and the dress is pretty low up top….Boob comments were actually made at her last bridal shower. I said it was the super padded bra and changed the subject as quick as I could.
Post # 16
oh man, that stinks. I think maybe you should sit down with the bride and confide in her, tell her that it’s a secret and out of respect for her you’re not going to share the news until afterwards. She should know since you’re in her wedding party, and I’d suggest getting a bolero that covers the front…