What kind of treatments are you on? I had a doctor push me to have my first kid at 21, even tho Darling Husband was deployed at the time. I didn’t really care for the guy (he was kinda weird) and saw another doctor. I ended up in a fertility clinic seeing a reproductive endocrinologist. He said that with all the options they have available to women with endometriosis nowadays, the only way he’d encourage me to TTC now/very soon would be if i was a really bad case. And he said even if i was, I’d probably need ART (advanced reproductive techniques) to get pregnant anyways. Oh and I just turned 24.
I had a laparoscopy a couple years ago (dec 2007) to clean out all the sticky tissue. My organs were growing together and they separated them all. I had an 8 week long recovery. I was a mess. They put me on lupron depo provera and froze my reproductive cycle. I started a low carb, low sugar, low inflammatory diet. Then, after 6 months on the lupo, I started birth control so I wouldn’t menustrate. Menstruate=scar tissue. So we basically froze my body exactly where it was. I had another lap in December to see what my tubes looked like. Doctor said it looked great, that even though i had a low egg follicle count (thanks to a very invasive vaginal ultrasound), things looked pretty good and the endo seemed to clear up. He deduced it was likely the medication and the diet I was on that kept it from coming back.
Anyways, my advice is to go get checked out more. My regular OBGYN simply didn’t have the knowledge that my specialist did. She gave me vague answers like, “well you never know, endometriosis can be really bad” blah blah blah and this guy was just like, “ok here’s the deal…..here’s what I advise…” knowing I was in college and graduated a year ago and Darling Husband was in the military and we were NOT READY to have kids yet. Even though it’s never a good time to have a baby, forcing one when we know 100% beyond the shadow of a doubt it is a truly awful time would have been irresponsible for us (we lived apart for the first 6 months of our marriage).
He’s going to be really busy in medical school. I’d take Mrs. Dg’s advice. I’d be incredibly frustrated if I didn’t have a partner who was able to ‘pull his weight’ essentially. He’s going to be SO busy studying all the time, being on campus, all those things. Do you want him to miss out on a lot of that? While it’s not an ideal situation, in the long run, it may seriously bum you out that he’s not able to participate in the first year or two of his baby’s life very much because he HAS to study all the time. It’ll be hard on him, too, I’d imagine. I dunno, one of my friends is preggo and her husband is stationed in Virginia finishing up a military school and watching her go through her pregnancy pretty much alone is really hard on BOTH of them. All I’m saying is….do you want to be a single parent? Because you very well may end up being one.
Endo is very unpredictable. But if you get it under control, you’re better off, in my opinion (I’m no medical expert by any means, just someone who’s dealt with this extensively and researched the crappola out of it). Also, having a “clean” and scar-tissue free uterus makes a better environment for the fetus to grow. If you haven’t had surgery yet, you may consider getting a “clean out” so your uterus is a happier place =]. Also, where is the endo located? Somtimes it’s located in places that really have no bearing on your fertility (um, mine was all over my bowels and colon and stuff, plus my stomach and uterus but NOT on my ovaries. I did have 3 ginormous cysts on them though and the doc plucked those guys off) so if it’s all over your tubes, you’ll know now versus later how much of a difficult time you’ll have. Basically if your tubes are scarred shut, the chance of you conceiving naturally is super slim. But if your tubes are good, then the likelihood of your egg making it to the uterus and implanting is far greater. It just depends WHERE the tissue is.
Have you had a lap yet? It’s a really great diagnostic tool altho kinda sucky, no lie. And lupron is evil, too…i can honestly say i know what menopause feels like and it is no bueno.