(Closed) When to write thank you note for guest who didn’t give gift?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Send them out asap. They should all go out at the same time. Since a guest has up to a year to send out a gift, they still deserve a prompt thank you note for attending as well and sharing in your day.

Unless you are on a month long honeymoon and are just now getting started on writing your thank you notes upon your return, 5 weeks is is considered borderline late for mailing them if you have already mailed out others at this point.

Post # 4
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1696 posts
Bumble bee

There’s actually no need to send a thank-you note to guests simply for having attended. (This is modern “made-up wedding etiquette” propably evolved by stationers and photographers to sell those after-wedding photo-card thank-you notes.) In fact, if you entertained your guests to a meal, formal etiquette requires that *they* send a thank-you note to *you* within two days thanking *you* for your hospitality. But don’t hold your breath; chances are you won’t get more than one or two “bread-and-butter” notes.

Post # 5
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240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

wow you are super efficient with your thank-yous!  I would hold off for at least 3 months.  When I was young and totally clueless, i have to admit that there were a couple instances where I didn’t send a gift until close to 6 months later.  Not that it’s an excuse but often the travel and hotel expenses were pretty significant and made the gift a financial afterthought for awhile.  Also, my wedding was spring of 2009 and I was still getting gifts around the holidays!

Post # 6
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5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I sent all of my thank you notes for guests who did not give gifts at the same time.

Post # 7
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

There really isn’t a need to send a thank you note if there wasn’t a gift. So I’d say just skip it.

Post # 8
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with @aspasia475: and @Encore:.  I didn’t send thank yous to people who didn’t give gifts because I thought that giving them free food and drinks after the ceremony was thanks enough.

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