Post # 1
I have written every thank you note for gifts that we received. I’m very into making sure my guests receive prompt thank you notes, since I’m grateful that they spent their day celebrating with us and also very grateful that they bought us a gift.
For guests who came, but did not give a gift, how long do you think I should wait before writing a note thanking them for celebrating with us? I would like to write it sooner rather than later since I like to give prompt thank yous, but I also don’t want to write it so soon that it was before they bought a gift, if they were planning to buy one.
I was thinking of waiting for 5 weeks, but I’m not sure.
Post # 3
Send them out asap. They should all go out at the same time. Since a guest has up to a year to send out a gift, they still deserve a prompt thank you note for attending as well and sharing in your day.
Unless you are on a month long honeymoon and are just now getting started on writing your thank you notes upon your return, 5 weeks is is considered borderline late for mailing them if you have already mailed out others at this point.
Post # 4
There’s actually no need to send a thank-you note to guests simply for having attended. (This is modern “made-up wedding etiquette” propably evolved by stationers and photographers to sell those after-wedding photo-card thank-you notes.) In fact, if you entertained your guests to a meal, formal etiquette requires that *they* send a thank-you note to *you* within two days thanking *you* for your hospitality. But don’t hold your breath; chances are you won’t get more than one or two “bread-and-butter” notes.
Post # 5
wow you are super efficient with your thank-yous! I would hold off for at least 3 months. When I was young and totally clueless, i have to admit that there were a couple instances where I didn’t send a gift until close to 6 months later. Not that it’s an excuse but often the travel and hotel expenses were pretty significant and made the gift a financial afterthought for awhile. Also, my wedding was spring of 2009 and I was still getting gifts around the holidays!
Post # 6
I sent all of my thank you notes for guests who did not give gifts at the same time.
Post # 7
There really isn’t a need to send a thank you note if there wasn’t a gift. So I’d say just skip it.
Post # 8
I agree with @aspasia475: and @Encore:. I didn’t send thank yous to people who didn’t give gifts because I thought that giving them free food and drinks after the ceremony was thanks enough.