Post # 1
Just curious, at what age was your husband/SO/guy ready to have kids, or actively brought it up himself?
I am 24, and although we aren’t married yet, I do think about having kids often. My boyfriend is 28, and is no where near ready. That’s fine, as I’m not completely ready either, and we would definitely wait a while after we get married. However, I do think I’m more ready than he is. He’s very concerned about finances, which is one of his concerns.
Was anyone else’s SO the same way? At what age did he start to come around?
Post # 3
@Keke2013: My husband was more than ready for children when I met him at 32. He’s the baby whisperer! I’m not sure at what age he really began wanting children since I didn’t know him, but it was probably long before that. He’s definitely always been more ready than I am for kids, even now that I’m pregnant. Most guys I know at 28 weren’t ready for marriage, let alone kids. It really depends on our social circle I think though and what stage of life the people you hang out with seem to be in.
Post # 4
FI has a few things he wants us to do before kids, such as take a big trip, run a Spartan race, be married for one year and both graduate, get jobs. We are on track to have all these completed by next summer. We already bought a house and have a fairly large savings with no debt and full life insurance policies. We are looking to start TTC in fall 2015. I will be 22 and he will be 24.
Post # 5
My DH knew my ideal timeline for EVERYTHING (engagement, marriage, kids) within 6 months of us dating, but I didn’t know his until he proposed! And then he said the infamous line literally an hour after getting engaged: “I want to put a baby in you on the wedding night.”
And we got pregnant on our honeymoon!
I’m 23, and DH is 28!
Post # 6
He’s ready now…he was ready when I met him, too.
Post # 7
Neither of us knew for certain even when we got married. We figured someday, but werent sure when that day was.
One day we were discussing getting older and how if we wanted kids we should think about it soon. So low and behold we got pregnant 1.5 months later. I am due November. He will turn 35 four days after our due date and I will be 31.
EDIT: we had been married for 2 years when we conceived. We also knew we wanted to be married at least 1 year before trying for a kid.
Post # 8
FI wants them since oh, yesterday! lol It’s cute, but it also scares me a little. In a good way… 🙂
Post # 9
Dropped in here because of the title
I am an Encore Bride, and an Oldtimer (over 50)
When I got married the first time (circa 1980) and in my early 20s… that was a normal age for marriage, and most people got down to babymaking in their 20s as well.
My Ex and I waited 2 years and then got pregnant.
It worked for us.
I enjoyed have the 2 years to ourselves and getting our lives organized off the ground before we had a child
We used those 2 years to improve our careers (we were recent Uni Grads, having gotten married fresh out out of school) enjoy each other’s company, and save some money
Getting pregnant was an easy choice for us. I especially wanted to have a baby with him. He just wanted me to be happy.
Once I was pregnant with our first, is when he really stepped up to the plate and embraced the whole idea. He LOVED being a father. And was an EXCELLENT father his whole life to our kids.
He may have been a crappy husband, but he WAS ALWAYS A GOOD DAD.
The Divorce was hard on all of us… but now that he’s passed away… I know that it is hard on our children. And I feel badly for them. They didn’t deserve to lose him so young.
Post # 10
DH always said he wanted kids, but wanted to wait a while after being married, and I felt the same way. He was ready when I showed him the positive pg test. Actually, he was more excited than I was at first. I was excited, but scared. Needless to say we had a slight miscalculation in our charting. 🙂 Now we’re both super excited and DH has a countdown to baby app on his phone.
Post # 11
We were both 23 when we started ttc 🙂 but we tended to move a little more quickly than many places. We had been married a year, he had a stable salaried job that supported us, and we had just moved to the state we planned on staying in.
Post # 12
My DH basically said that he wanted to be married at least a year first, and we are also waiting for his promotion to kick in. After that point, it’s pretty much game on! Full on TTC should be happening sooner rather than later.
Post # 13
I think he’d ideally like to be 30 when we start trying, but as I’m older than he is, we’re going to start when he is 27. He’s on board with it, it’s in our plan.
Post # 14
We were both ready about 8 months after our wedding, we had both just turned 24.
Post # 15
FH is 24 and I’m 21. We’re talking about kids on a daily basis now, and I’ve even started taking pre-pregnancy vitamins to get this thing going. He says we should start trying after the wedding, but I have a feeling the wedding night will boost our chances…
Post # 16
My SO went from “maybe kids” to “1-2 kids” to “no kids.” I’m okay with it. I like the idea of having 1, maybe 2 kids some day, but haven’t ever had my heart set on it. So if he suddenly goes back to “1-2 kids” in a couple years, we can talk about TTC, but it won’t be the end of the world if he doesn’t.